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I am so LONELY

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I have lived in Florida for 8 years but am a Kentucky Girl .

Even though I have lived here for so long I have no "REAL" friends here. I have a few ladies I knew from past jobs that I had but no true friendships. I mean these ladies are not the kind of friend you just call up on the phone to chat. We wouldn't really have any thing to say.

It's really not because I don't try. I am always super friendly to everyone I meet here. But it's like people are in too much of a dad blamed hurry to make any friends.

On top of everything else my very best friend in the world my cousin who lives in Ky we are drifting further and further apart. She is so wild sleepin around and getting in fights. It hurts me to even talk to her. All she wants to talk about is S*X and I was raised that a lady shouldn't talk about it. Much less bragging about it. I mean I was raised that you waited. But she is with differnet people every week. I mean live 5 or 6 people per week I am not joking.

Now that I am pregnant and with all the hormones I feel even more alone and like not even my hubby can relate to me. I mean he can't he's never been pregnant.

I know this is going to sound so childish and dumb but I just wish I had a best girl friend so bad I don't have any sisters and I just wish I had a best friend (besides hubby) to confide in. Sometimes you just need another woman to talk you you know ??

I am just fed up with feeling like beacuse I haven't had the same best friend since the 3rd grade that I am a lower class woman. I mean surely there has to be other woman out there that really want a best friend right ???

I guess not. I know all this sounds sooooo stupid but I am just so desperate for any conversation with anyone that doesn't have chest hair right now lol !!!!

Sorry for the rant I am just going through something I guess !!!!

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  1. faxonfive's Avatar
    I was in a place like that a couple times, We moved alot when y hubby was in the Army - and it was like friends came and went but noone ever that close to confide in...The hubby works all day ...then comes home and (mine) didnt want to talk...then living so far from home didnt help either...I am sorry to hear what you are goign through. I found a parenting group that I joined through the YMCA and made a few friends to talk to ......Hubby outta the military now and we are in a permanant home now for over 17 years......those horomones get pretty bad. You sound like you have a big heart and you care alot!! Some people dont understand that their actions do effect others. My heart goes out to you!! You want to try to find a group to hang out with through either your church, social services or the YMCA. I have found some really great friends on here!!!! God Bless sweet heart!!! Your in my prayers!!!

    Lynn in Va.
  2. brchbell's Avatar
    Dear incheck4real, I know where you are coming from! My DH & where military and my Mom died the year after we got married. I was being carted all over the world and when I had my babies was the worst. Oh how alone I felt! My DH & I got very close but sometimes a girl just needs another girl to talk to! The worst for me was when I had 3 little boys and DH was sent off to the 1st Iraq war thing and I was 6 month's PG and went into labor. Neighbors took my boys and I drove myself to the hospital. they spent 3 days trying to stop labor but in the end I gave birth to the tiniest little girl I had longed for all alone and no one to talk to. She died with in 30 minutes of being born and DH didn't even know about it until he got home 2 months later. I still feel that moment when I so needed to talk to someone and had no one to talk to. so many of the dear ladies on base tried to fill the gap but it just wasn't the same. I needed my best friend or my momma but I had no one. In the end my DH got out of the military and brought me home. I had twins in 1993. 2 beautiful little girl's. I was surrounded by by friends, sister's and aunts. I had lots of folk I could talk to at last. I grateful my DH know I was to the breaking point and gave up his active duty thing to take me home. He stayed in the Air guard and is active duty again with them but I'm home and will never leave again. You go right ahead and rant. that's what you got this blog for and their are some of us out here that sure understand where you are coming from!

    Cherlynn in NW Missouri
  3. DohDohBird's Avatar
    Another Army wife chiming in here...

    I have had those lonlies before, and for me, it only happened when I didn't go out to meet people. Church, moms' clubs, dog parks, clubs, etc are great places to meet people.

    People are meant to be with people. I hope you find your niche soon and make a friend or two.
  4. Janice Terrell's Avatar
    I'm not an Army wife but I lost my very best friend when my husband died in 1998. Even with family around my best friend wasn't. It was the lonliest I had every been in my life. You rant all you want to - there is always someone to listen
  5. incheck4real's Avatar
    Thank you all so much I am actually feeling alot better today. I was really having a down day and I am so thankful for all my budget gal pals !!!! Y'all are the best ever !!! We make being frugal look good !!!!
  6. beansthemama's Avatar
    I know how you feel, I went through something very similiar 5 years ago.
    Five years ago we were having some serious money problems, and I had a 4 year old and was do to have another one.
    When I was 8 months into my pregnacy our car got repoed at 2 in the morning with all my stuff for the hospital, my bag for the delievery, car seat and stroller,
    then I gave birth to an emergancy c-section and moved 10 days after to a new state with no family or friends.
    I spent the first 6 months here, with nothing. We slept on an airbed for the first 7 months, and I was always home in a 2 bedroom apartment all the time b/c we only had one car.
    I was so hard for me, then I started going to church. That is where I have met most of my friends here. It takes some time but with God nothing is impossible. I hope and pray that the feeling of being lonely goes away soon. I am here for you to be a sista, and a friend. God bless
  7. ShellVera777's Avatar
    I don't think you are the only person who feels this way. Many women do. I, like you, do not have a best girlfriend I can call up and just chat with. I have friends but none at the same place in life that can understand exactly what I am talking about. I don't have anyone who understands the things I am going through or the things I feel. I believe it is at those times we just have to find that power within ourselves to keep pressing. I am not sure if you are a believer, but I fully believe the Lord provides exactly what we need. I prayed for friends and I joined a chat group that has produced some great real-life friends and we have been helping each other through this time of year, the emotions running rampant, and even cleaning each others' houses! Trust that it will come and it will. In the meantime, it looks like there are at least six people you can email anytime. I will even give you my number if you want to call. Just send me a private message. Bless you and I pray for a successful and painless pregnancy for you. ~Shell
  8. faxonfive's Avatar
    I hope you are doing okay, just thinking of you....hollar anytime you need to rant or rave

  9. JoAnn's Avatar
    I'm glad that you are starting to feel better. Yes there are alot of people (budget gal pals) here to listen. You can always rant my way--I'm a good listener..

    JoAnn in N Ohio