by, 07-09-2010 at 11:20 AM (1569 Views)
The other day I found myself frustrated beyond belief at a multitude of various circumstances which, at the time, I believed to be out of my control:
- Lightening Damage- burst pipes, destroyed tree that must be cut down and removed, fried appliances, service repair appointments, etc
- Family- In the years that I've lived here, not a single person in my family has even attempted to visit me, despite my many travels to visit them. On the contrary, one family member even stated she wouldn't be "bullied" into visiting, which, at the time, was not only a slap in the face, but a real eye opener for me.
- Schedules- The last couple of years it has not been uncommon for dh to be away from home on a jobsite for several weeks or months at a time, leaving me to raise the boys virtually alone as well as maintain the house & business.
- Friends Woes- several of my friends (& their families) are going through rough times, divorce, job loss, health issues, etc.
It occurred to me that while I cannot control the circumstances of these situations, I can most certainly control my own reaction to them. It's easy to become overwhelmed with daily life, particularly when it's throwing you curve balls with spikes in them, but it's a considerably more formidable task to catch those curve balls, toss them aside, and sit back to enjoy the game.
I've decided to start a new series of blog posts, Inclined Happiness, that is, to compel oneself be influenced toward a particular attitude, more blatantly- to "Choose" to be happy, regardless of the circumstances in your life. Inclined happiness is finding and counting the blessings within your home and heart.
I've discovered that the most fundamental attribution error I make on a daily basis is viewing other peoples actions as a reflection of whether or not they truly care about me; For example, the family member that chooses not to visit me is not thoughtless and uncaring, she simply prefers not travel long distances and is more comfortable staying home.
I hope some of the forthcoming posts of my own "inclined happiness" can benefit you as well- life is a journey, not a destination.