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My husband and i have been “Partner Parents” for many years. (Basically we taught new parents, or parents who needed coaching by “partnering” with them as a team)
The first thing we always taught was to take the word “punishment” out of their vocabulary, and replace it with “discipline”. The difference being that punishment is most often done out of anger, where discipline is actually a form of love, and a method of teaching.
We wish to teach them self control, or discipline, because we love them. We also emphasized tbe importance of making sure the child knew EXACTLY why they were being disciplined, and what part of their discipline was for each specific infraction when there were multiple offenses being dealt with. It is important for children to understand how they went wrong so to speak, in order for them to learn how to avoid their mistake again.
The core of what we taught both children and adults is simple:
Life is about choices.
Choices have consequences, therefore you choose your own consequenses by the choices you make. If you make poor choices, the consequences are unpleasant. If you make good choices, then you dont find yourself dealing with unpleasant situations that are your fault.
This also gives the parents opportunities to use positive reinforcement when they see their child make good choices.
We also strongly encourage parents to be specific with their boundries. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you say you are going to discipline them if they “do that again”, then it is imperative that that is exactly what happens.
Just a few thoughts I thought I would add to this excellent article!February 23, 2014 at 10:48 pm in reply to: Picky, Picky, Picky- How To Deal with Picky Eaters #451462
This issue is handled pretty much the same by everyone in my family: :food:
I try to be acomodating if I know ahead of time about allergies, however, ppl who are just picky are met with the attitude of “This is what there is, eat and be happy or go away!” :eatpopcorn:
We have a guideline in our house that pretty much covers it… Life is about choices, choices have consequences, you choose your consequences in life by the choices you make….
So every one pretty well knows what to expect
Thats not to say I don’t try to cook for all involved, but I’m not going to go out of my way to cook separate meals
We make a version of this, with the plan being to use up the leftovers in the fridge, or the excess canned vegetables that have built up in the cabinet. You can use any veg, pasta rice or grains (like barley) and any meat that you need to stretch. Dump it into a pot season to taste, and cook until grain products are done.
It’s a great way to avoid waste and stretch meat B’)
The timing on this is fantastic! We were just given a roast that will need this kind of tlc! Can’t wait to taste it!February 10, 2014 at 3:18 pm in reply to: B101 Challenge: Share your Best Stain Removing/Stain Fighting Tip #450645
I have found that some stains (mostly pet) may look like they are gone but leave a smell behind. For those I put the items in the washing machine with a tablespoon of Odorban and set for a pre-wash. at the end of the pre-wash I add my soap and wash as usual.
works on perspiration odor as well.