This topic contains 7 replies, has 7 voices, and was last updated by bethaliz6894 April 3, 2013 at 2:12 am.

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  • #314051

    It is no joke about when you are with someone, the guys come out. In my case, its my ex-boyfriends. I’m married to a man I love. We have a beautiful daughter together plus all of our other kids from previous relationships. It totals out to 7 kids. YIKES!! Anyway, back to my issue.
    Has anyone else ever had “The One That Got Away” situation? Well, I have. And he’s now married with 4 kids. Awesome, right? Definitely. Now, the crappy part is he told me he’s always been in love with me but was too chicken to track me back down. We broke up only because his family moved to another state. THEN…..another ex of mine has reconnected with me and is telling me I’m his “One That Got Away.” OMG!! Either I need to run away or I should start hoarding men.

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    FreebieQueen
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    @lmitchell 267019 wrote:

    Either I need to run away or I should start hoarding men.

    For the sake of your marriage and keeping heartache to a minimum, I would seriously Cease ALL communication with ALL ex’s (shy of the ones you HAVE to talk to due to the kids). As for the “One that got away”, things happen for a reason.

  • #436571

    @freebiequeen 267133 wrote:

    For the sake of your marriage and keeping heartache to a minimum, I would seriously Cease ALL communication with ALL ex’s (shy of the ones you HAVE to talk to due to the kids). As for the “One that got away”, things happen for a reason.

    I SO agree. At one point, a long time ago, I was tempted to fall into this trap.
    To make a long story short, I did not. Haven’t regretted that decision either.
    Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best. Just make sure ANY decision you make is the one you’re sure of. When you look back, you don’t want regrets.

  • #436610

    Oh, I know. And that is what I am doing. Things are complicated enough as it is.

  • #436625

    Tashdan
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    @lmitchell 267552 wrote:

    Oh, I know. And that is what I am doing. Things are complicated enough as it is.

    This is the biggest pet peeve that I have with social media sites like facebook, myspace and twitter. Rather than helping you connect with current friends they become a place for old flames to seek you out for a little rumpy pumpy. They tell you everything you want to hear with the hopes of getting in your pants.

    I had an old beau from HS look me up on FB and he was just as sweet as could be. When I told him I had a significant other, he said, “well sweetie, so do I, but I just know WE were meant to be”. *Rolls Eyes* Yeah sure, and in 3 months, he”ll be back online looking for a new conquest.

  • #438439

    Remember your first paragraph — you married the person you love — and you have a beautiful child together — that alone dictates that all other EXamples should be let go, not pursued (not even platonic) and buried in your memory (but not your heart). Imagine for just a second if you had stayed with that ex — would he be pursuing someone else behind your back? I feel sorry for his current wife — he’s obviously got someone else on his mind…

    Good luck — married 15 years to my sweetheart and only when I am mad at him for something stupid, do I regret it. LOL

  • #438448

    let me preface by saying I am happily married for 18 years. I wouldn’t trade my husband for my right foot.

    however, I do like the idea of hoarding men. 😀 I really don’t think hubby would go for that though. LOL!

  • #438450

    I have been married to the same man for 56 years. Unless they have changed the vows since I got married they said “forsaking all others keep thee only to him.” Don’t even think about “what if.”

  • #438455

    WOW congratulation on 56 years of marriage. I am very impressed. I hope to live as long with my hubby.

    I totally agree with you, don’t even think about ‘what ifs’. the past is in the past for a reason.

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