- January 15, 2014 at 11:10 am #336948
There are always skills to learn that can help parents when challenges arise. To be more responsible fathers and mothers, we’re giving you tips to effective parenting skills to handle your children well.
Tip # 1
Recognize Your Child’s Feelings
Children need and want the most important ones in their lives—their parents—to understand how they feel inside. If parents consistently oppose their kids when expressing their emotions, they’re not practicing effective parenting skills. Children become less expected to discuss matters with them.
They may even doubt their capabilities. Normally, they will express their emotions and thoughts in intense way, defying your power.
Tip # 2
Identify Effective Family Rules
Kids become better with understandable rules and consequences. Using no structure, they become unhappy, selfish, self-absorbed—and they make everybody around them unhappy, too. If you love your kids, you have to correct them effectively through your parenting skills.
If rules are broken, impose the consequences right away. Note: if you are angry, wait until you have calmed down before you enforce the discipline. Nevertheless, don’t delay it.
Tip # 3
Use Your Authority
Studies show that kids brought up by loving and yet authoritative parents stand out academically. Children consider many good things about themselves, build up better social skills, and are happier over those children whose parents are either very lenient or harsh. Those who support their children but keep firm limits are using effective parenting skills.
From childhood through their adolescent years, children will defy your right in exercising your authority and your skills of effective parenting. When it comes to a question like ‘Who is the boss?’ children will, if the parents won’t run with the ball.
Tip # 4
Educate by Examples
Actions teach and educate your skills for effective parenting. Very often, words impart only information. Mimicking their parents is one of the most influential ways children learn.
Try hard to be good models only, not expecting perfection. Use your effective parenting skills in raising self-disciplined children.
Tip # 5
Seek Good Advice
Definitely, all parents need effective skills in bringing up their children. This career is one of the most frustrating yet rewarding jobs any person can achieve. Most parents go to professional specialists seeking for effective guidance and skills in parenting.
What these experienced people speak of is based on principles on managing families. Ask for the experts’ perspective who have mastery on raising kids. Seek for both sensible examples and great advice that can assist you in acquiring effective skills.
Children learn best when they’re provided with consistent, firm, and clear rules.
- January 17, 2014 at 4:56 pm #448519
Very informative post I am new to this site all already loving it. I have 2 young kids and love the ideas and suggestions you provide.
- January 18, 2014 at 10:46 pm #448640
So true that the first thing to recognize is the child’s feelings! Every child is unique and handles situations differently, so understanding and not reprimanding feelings is important.
With that said, catering to a loud child’s point of view and letting emotions rule the discussion will not help either. This is where the firm and consistent family rules will help.
“I know you are very upset right now, and I am sorry you feel sad. Howeever, we both know what the consequence is when you break this rule.”
- August 13, 2014 at 10:27 am #457677
Wow..! Excellent and very informative article. In my opinion give your child plenty of reasons to comply with the expectations you place on him or her.
Healthy, well-behaved children are those encouraged by adults to be well behaved, not those afraid of punishment. Giving lots of positive attention and positive comments about them and their behavior does this best. For every negative comment you make to the child, there should be positive ones made as well. It is also important to use reasoning and explanation when giving rules.
Don’t rely on always saying because I said so.Otherwise you are missing out on the opportunity to teach children how to think analytically and to make good choices.
- September 10, 2014 at 10:35 am #458441
It is nice tips for parents though am new to this forum loving to be here. Thanks for sharing this tips loving it.
- June 28, 2015 at 7:47 am #461646
My husband and i have been “Partner Parents” for many years. (Basically we taught new parents, or parents who needed coaching by “partnering” with them as a team)
The first thing we always taught was to take the word “punishment” out of their vocabulary, and replace it with “discipline”. The difference being that punishment is most often done out of anger, where discipline is actually a form of love, and a method of teaching.
We wish to teach them self control, or discipline, because we love them. We also emphasized tbe importance of making sure the child knew EXACTLY why they were being disciplined, and what part of their discipline was for each specific infraction when there were multiple offenses being dealt with. It is important for children to understand how they went wrong so to speak, in order for them to learn how to avoid their mistake again.
The core of what we taught both children and adults is simple:
Life is about choices.
Choices have consequences, therefore you choose your own consequenses by the choices you make. If you make poor choices, the consequences are unpleasant. If you make good choices, then you dont find yourself dealing with unpleasant situations that are your fault.
This also gives the parents opportunities to use positive reinforcement when they see their child make good choices.
We also strongly encourage parents to be specific with their boundries. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you say you are going to discipline them if they “do that again”, then it is imperative that that is exactly what happens.
Just a few thoughts I thought I would add to this excellent article!
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