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- December 8, 2007 at 4:07 pm #254654
I can assure you- if your son’s mouth is horrible at home, it’s just
the same or worse when you are not around. At that age, kids consider
it “cool” to cuss, and while most will watch their mouths around their
parents, they are stil more likely to say things around friends and
others that they will not say around their parents.
if he’s willing to say unnacceptable things around you, then he’s
definintly saying them around other people.
i agree with the original sentiment of the conversation, that people
need to learn to watch what they say around others, and just in
general. but parents are not always to blame for what the teen’s say.
in most cases, it’s a product of their social upbringing, rather than
their family upbringing.
as for guns, i don’t allow our children to play with them, but i make
sure that the children are aware that not everyone feels the same way.
snaping at a parent, or feeling they are bad parents because they allow
a child to play with toy guns isn’t the best way to deal with it.
the child in the store picked up a toy gun. the parent may not have
even been aware of it. that isn’t so much a moral degrade as different
social standards. children have played with toy guns since the
invention of the real gun. it’s only been in recent years that many
parents find it unacceptable.
swearing is also not anything new to this new generation, nor is it
something that will ever go away. just as teens today test their
limits, teens from 10 years ago, 20 years ago, even 30 or 40 years ago
tested their limits as well. And when your children are teens, they’ll
test their limits, too.
As parents, we do our best to make sure our children are safe,
protected, and raised to our standards. It’s ignorance at it’s finest,
though, to expect that children and teenagers left to their own devices
are going to do things that we think we’ve taught them not to do.
Not all teens act out in the same manner, but all teens will test their
parental limits to a degree. It might not be swearing- it could be
smoking, skipping school, eating foods they shouldn’t, skipping out on
homework, calling in to work, staying out past curfew, drinking, even
So, as to whether I think there is a moral degrade, I suppose my answer
would be that there is a general lack of respect towards people, but
that morally, teens are acting out as they always have. It’s maybe a
bit more prevalent in how they do it these days, but I was a teen 15
years ago, and it isn’t that different from what I remember. They just
are more likely o do it in front of adults than before.
— In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Dee Bleau
> My son’s mouth is horrible. He is 16. I am on him constintley about
it. and I pray that he is not like that in public with his friends. I
find out about it their will be hell to pay.
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