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      Everyone, I have just received the following post that I feel is far
      too important to allow just to be sent privately when any potential
      foster parent may glean the wealth of beauty from within. There are
      powerful words here that deserve to be read.

      I wrote to the sender, Pat <froggie@mscomm.com>:
      < passing it directly to the list because it contains precious and
      valuable information for all. Thank you so much.>>

      Here is the post:
      We have been fostering since 1985 in California. I am also President
      of our Foster Parent Association, and have been for thirteen years.
      Be very careful since you have a small child. The ones that have
      responded to you about children sexually acting out is true. It would
      be heartbreaking if your own young son was the victim, so please be
      careful. Also protect your husband, these children don’t always tell
      the truth. Foster parents, on the average, go through an
      investigation once every three years. In the system, you must
      prove your innocence since you will be presumed guilty until you DO
      prove yourself innocent. You will live in a ‘glass’ house, please
      double check with your State licensing agency. You may also have the
      birth family in your home, or to supervise a visit with the birth
      family. If you are planning on only being certified, remember that
      you will not have a ‘chain of command’ to appeal the decision. On the
      money issue, we have always felt that it’s a good thing that Larry
      makes good money, since we always spend more than we ever get! As
      children leave your home, get ready to cry–but not when they can
      see. As you watch them grow, or come back to see you, that involves a
      different kind of crying. With concurrent planning, you will be
      involved with the plan for the child. All homes in California are now
      viewed as adoptive homes, in case a child can not return to the birth
      family. That is another thing to think about. Also your child will
      become attached to some of the children placed in your home. We
      started fostering for one specific child. We ended up fostering a
      total of five at a time, with our daughter still home. I will be more
      than happy to answer any and all questions you have. Also check your
      Health and Welfare Code on the criteria that your state operates

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