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I would tell your friend it is her day and she needs to do what will make her

happy. Of

course her daughter’s and fiance’s happiness is important, too. But it’s Her

Day. My

husband and I lived together for 6 years before we got married. When we did get

married

we did what we wanted, the way we (ok mostly I) wanted and we handled it all

ourselves.

We had a lovely wedding and reception (with about 100 guests) for under $5K.

That’s $5K

for every single thing. We designed the invitations, we cooked/catered all the

food, we

decorated the hall, we bought the bridesmaid’s outfits (dresses, shoes, jewelry,

pantyhose). I even wrote our ceremony.

Was everyone of my friends and family happy with what we did? No, but I found

ways to

deal with the criticism. One friend complained that the ceremony was too short

(only 12

minutes) and they missed most of it. I just smiled and said it was a shame they

weren’t at

the church on time. She went on to say that “weddings never start on time” and

I

responded with “I’ve always been punctual.” And I had warned everyone that I

would walk

down the aisle exactly on time. My mother-in-law didn’t like my bridesmaid’s

dresses

because they weren’t ornate enough. I told her they were perfect for the girls

to wear to

work (and at a cost of $20 each a bargain). I could go on-and-on-and-on.

The bottom line. . .I did it my way and it was perfect. We had a short, sweet

ceremony and

than danced and had fun for hours and hours. It’s been almost 16 years and our

friends

and families are still talking about it and how much they enjoyed it. I think

what made it

so enjoyable was that we did what we wanted. We didn’t give in to any pressure

so we

were relaxed and could just celebrate our love together.

My niece got married last August. She’d lived with her husband for 8 years.

She just

called one day and said “I can’t come to work today” and they went to the

courthouse and

got married. And you know what, she says it was perfect because it was what she

wanted

to do. Just goes to show if you do what you want you’ll remember it as the

happiest day.

Sorry this is such a long response but I hope it helps.

Kay

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