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- April 22, 2007 at 3:38 pm #240495
Two good books are Love and Logic (I think Faye is the author) and Dobson’s
Strong Willed Child.
Mostly you have to let her know you are still the boss. You can’t walk on
eggshells because you are so afraid she will run away. When you do this you
are letting her control you, the situation, and your whole family.
isn’t fair to you, the rest of your children or your spouse. You aren’t
doing her any favors either. She has to know the world doesn’t revolve
around her and that her temper tantrums (which is what running away is)
won’t get her everything she wants.
You have to make the consequences
severe enough and that you “love her too much to let her hurt herself like
this”. She may be involved with some really bad kids who are encouraging
this kind of behavior. You may need to seek counseling to see what the
underlying problem is, or is it just plain rebellion.
I would talk to the
counselor first with just you and your spouse. Then bring in your daughter
later. The counselor will probably have some suggestions for you to try
Running away is not a normal teenage behavior, so don’t let her
or anyone else tell you it is. Running away is dangerous and I know your
daughter doesn’t understand all the dangers that are out there.
I hope these suggestions help. Hang in there. She is worth the effort.
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