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      Actually, that’s how we got into fostering.

      We are a his, mine and theirs family. So when we got married, we hadn’t planned to have any more kids. Then we decided that it would be a blessing to raise children together, but we couldn’t have any together.

      One day my 4th grader (now 9th grader) came home from school bummed out because one of his friends in class was moving. He was a foster child who was moving to an adoptive home out of town. 4th grader asked “how come we can’t do something like that?”
      That’s how it started.

      I have 3 bio kids still at home fulltime, and 5 foster kids that we are hoping to adopt. The kids have been very accepting of the foster kids. It has also got them to realize how blessed they are to have a good family, good home, etc. When they’ve seen kids come to us with third degree burns at the hands of the
      parents, it makes it more difficult for them to complain about losing a trampoline privilege!

      The heartache comes when you’ve had these little ones in your care for 6 month, a year, or longer, and then the court returns them to bio parents who are still crappy parents and you know the child won’t have an opportunity in their life to do anything but stay in the welfare and drug circles.
      Insane Mom to J, J, N, L, B, H, N, N, N, B, B, K, K, T, S, R ages 29y – 15mo (but only 8+ kids at home now)

      — On Wed, 7/30/08, mem68 wrote:
      Date: Wednesday, July 30, 2008, 11:31 AM

      How did your birth kids respond to foster children?

      Original Message

      From: Pj

      To: Budget101_@yahoogro

      Sent: Wednesday, July 30, 2008 8:22 AM

      Subject: Re: : I got news

      Lots of emphasis on the HEARTACHE
      (we’ve had a total of 26 foster children in our home over the past 4 years)

      Insane Mom to J, J, N, L, B, H, N, N, N, B, B, K, K, T, S, R
      ages 29y – 14mo (but only 10+ kids at home now)

      — On Tue, 7/29/08, Suzi McMullen <smcmullen@kc.> wrote:

      From: Suzi McMullen <smcmullen@kc.>
      Subject: Re: : I got news
      To: Budget101_@yahoogro
      Date: Tuesday, July 29, 2008, 7:15 PM

      Yeah, but it’s anything BUT a windfall. It’s actuallyhard work, pain, heartachesometimes. I realize most states can not afford to make it financially rewarding. But if there was a way it should be done.


      Original Message

      From: Monique

      To: Budget101_@yahoogro

      Sent: Tuesday, July 29, 2008 4:04 PM

      Subject: Re: : I got news

      I think you may be misunderstanding me. I was in the process of
      becoming a foster parent when I found out I was pregnant. The
      original email which started this conversation, and additional emails
      which followed by the OP, spoke on how having foster children would
      help her budget. I get that you will be given $ to help with the
      costs of accepting another child in your household. I don’t believe
      that anyone who commented was talking about that. We were talkinga
      financially. Almost like a windfall.

      On Sat, Jul 26, 2008 at 5:02 PM, Suzi McMullen <smcmullen@kc.> wrote:
      > I understand how you feel. It’s easy to think at first that it should be
      > done purely from a giving standpoint. BUT, raising kids takes a lot of
      > effort. Homes, food, utilities, have to be paid for at the least.
      > Providing a home for kids is something that a person can’t just make happen
      > by wishing for it.

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