- July 9, 2008 at 7:22 pm #259617
Make sure there’s some praise in with that correcting. Plus, the way
you are correcting makes a big difference. “We don’t talk that way,
that is not a word to use” is totally different than “Don’t use that
word, only stupid people use it.” So, watch your wording. In fact,
it might be a help to tape what you say, then listen to it
later. There’s no problem with going back and saying to your son, “I
didn’t mean to sound like that. I should have said it this
way.” Reassure him that you are proud of him, but that the way he is
acting is upsetting you. I know I’ve heard “I love you, but not the
way you acted.” several times when I was young, and it focused on the
way I was acting, not my myself as a person.
Ann in Arkansas
At 02:22 PM 7/9/2008, you wrote:
>I at this point am so lost,he has had an awful week,and I know
>me correcting him all the time,I must be sending him awful messages
>about himself and I hate that he thinks hes not worthy as he is
>worthy,so much so! HELP!
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