It is interesting that you sent this post. I am 46 and have come to the realization that I too am in the early stages of menopause (this happened within the last 10 days). I have been experiencing hot flashes as well. When my mother went thru the change, she ate ice constantly to diminsh the intensity of the episodes.
She never took any kind of supplements or drugs. It took her about 10 years to finally finish the process. I intend on doing pretty much the same thing.
I do plan to exercise regularly, take vitamins, and consume as much essential fatty acids as I can. Alease