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- April 9, 2007 at 6:16 pm #251490Guest
Some good advice coming in for you already, especially
stuff about figuring out the current budget and such.
It does sound like he is rather sensitive, and I can
relate — my DH is like that as well. Sometimes they
just take everything you say personally, and even
though you’re trying to look at the big picture they
simply think you’re nagging them and calling them a
failure, or blaming them. So sometimes it falls down
to HOW you discuss it. Perhaps if you set aside some
time, and sat down and addressed in a way of “I’d
really like to see your business succeed as much as it
can, and I want to help you with that. What can I do,
or what can we do together to make that happen?”
Maybe it would open up the door to discussing what
needs to happen with it, where the shortcomings are.
I know as soon as you start talking about “We need to
pay the bills …” “The money needs to come in better
…” it seems everyone gets on the defensive. Perhaps
if you approach it in a different way like this, it
may actually allow for a proactive conversation to
happen. And you can then make suggestions like
finding an organization or support group that can help
him put together this business, people he can talk to
that have done it and can give advice, etc.
If, despite your efforts to be positive and
constructive, the conversation still degenerates into
him feeling bad and saying you don’t support him, or
that he’s a failure, etc. … well then you probably
are going to have to get tough on him and just put
your foot down that your family and its future is
riding on this, and that is the most important thing,
like it or not.
I hope you can work it out — like I said, I know how
it is to talk to someone who just seems to take most
things as a personal attack!
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