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      Kristie,

      there is a fine line in helping and pushing the person back to the abusive.

      imo, mom needs to let her know that she doesn’t feel the relationship is healthy for her, and that she is there for her when and if she needs her. and stay available at any time day or night. but the more she says he’s bad for her, you need to get out, the more apt she is to stay to prove mom wrong.

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      From: kristieobra
      To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
      Sent: Tuesday, August 14, 2007 12:32 PM
      Subject: Budget101.com : Re: Daughter in a abusive relationship

      Not interfere !! Im sorry but keeping these women isolated in a
      relationship and making them feel as if they have no support from
      family or friends is key in the abuse.

      I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years. My parents “didnt
      interfere”. I wish they would have.

      Perhaps if someone would have
      forced me to make changes I wouldnt have ended in a two week
      hospital stay.

      This is not about letting a daughter make her own decisions, it is
      about saving a life ! Now more than a decade later, I work as a
      counselor for abused women in my free time. Controling emotionally
      can lead to horrific things.

      There is no time at all that a woman
      should feel imprisoned, or unable to be herself. My advise to the
      mother, is do all you can do get your daughter help, counseling, and
      keep her safe.

      Advising otherwise would be completely irresponsible.

      Kristie

      — In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Gail Moncivais
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      > Melissa
      > I am praying for your daughter. I am not sure there is anything
      you can do. He seems to be a control freak and has a hold over her
      that will take more than just her family to break.

      Since she is a
      quite and reserved she is keeping all the emotional abuse to her
      self. The one thing you can do is be there for her when the dam
      breaks and she has had enough. Don’t try and break it off it can
      only make things worse.

      Just be there for her and just let you know
      you love her and respect her.
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      > I know you first instinct is to protect your children but there
      are some things they have to do on there own.

      No matter how hard
      you try to break them up his emotional abuse makes her feel guilty
      about leaving him and he has control for know.
      > Just love her and support her and above all don’t interfer.
      > I would suggest you talk to counselors at the local women’s
      shelter they may be able to steer you in the right direction.
      > Gail North East PA.
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