I wish I had the answers you seek. I am the mother of the abuser (verbally not physically). I try and warn every woman who he starts seeing that he is this way and they tend to think they are the “one” who can change him.
I don’t know what I did wrong. I love him, raised him in church and have always been there for him. When he is happy there is not a better man on earth but when depression hits his mouth starts.
My prayers will be with your family.
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