- August 13, 2007 at 3:05 pm #253164
Melissa, When I was in an abusive relationship with my ex-husband, it would have helped me to know that I had support from my family and if I wanted out, they would help me to get out and get away from him. Also, that she could have a better life. Sheis 22, so in my opinion old enough to take care of herself and make her own decisions.
I do understand where you are very worried about her, as I would be also. My suggestion would be to be sure she knows that you are there for her and are willing to help her get out of this situation if she wants. Also, when you are in an abusive relationship you sometimes feel worthless and like no one else would ever want you and your self esteem is suffering, because the abuser makes you feel this way.
If you could find someone else
to introduce her to that is interested in her, that would be very helpful (or would have been to me) even if nothing comes of it. Be glad that she did not/is not getting married. Also, in my experience emotional abuse is where it starts, then physical comes slowly trailing after.
Good Luck with this, my heart goes out to you.
I hope this helps since it is coming from experience and feel free to email me at email@example.com if I could help you in anyway. Misty
wrote:our almost 22 yr old daughter has been in an abusive relationship for over a year.
We are a vary close family and she has drifted away emotionally and physically. It is tearing our family apart. We have tried to communicate with her and she is avoiding us.
From the beginning of her relation ship she has spent 99% of her time with this guy who is 6 yrs older than her. From what I can see he is not physically abusive but emotionally. We have tried to talk to her and him and explain that it is not a healthy relationship if they have to be together non
The few times she has gone away with us he called her often and they fought. She has been sleeping at home till last week. Since then she has snuk into the house 2 times to get her stuff.
Saturday at church she was there. She doesn’t have a vehicle and we don’t know who she is staying with and how she got to church or work, she clames she is not staying at his place and I do believe her. She comes home 1/2 hr before she goes to bed, makes her lunch, gets her work cloths ready and is in her room with the door shut.
She was supose to get married las May and 3 weeks before the wedding he decided that he didn’t agree with her relegon and the wedding was off. She is still engaged to the jerk and is with him nonstop. We can see that she is not happy with her life, but because of her shy reserved personality she is not moving anywhere with her plans.
He has such a control over her that is sad to see her having to
spend her life with this person. I don’t want to make this any longer of a story but there are so many issues with him and us now that it is scary. He doesn’t and never drank, smoked or anything like that, has a vary high IQ and few friends if any.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how we reach our child and bring her back into our family life again.
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