I wish I had the answers you seek. I am the mother of the abuser (verbally not physically). I try and warn every woman who he starts seeing that he is this way and they tend to think they are the “one” who can change him.
I don’t know what I did wrong. I love him, raised him in church and have always been there for him.
My ex-husband’s mom tried to warn me about her son also. I wouldn’t listen and thought she just didn’t want us to be together. Sometimes you just gotta find out for yourself.
Especially if you are as strongwilled and hard headed as I am. Many women do think they can change a man, you are right about that. And like Nancy said, you didn’t do anything wrong.