Hi: I have a grown son who was first diagnosed with add he really has asperger’s syndrome and tourette syndrome. he is ocd as well. they totally missed the asperger’s and it wasn’t until he was in grade 8 that a teacher discovered he has tourette syndrome.He was seen by a 2 neurologist,psychiatrist,social workers,resource teacher,psychologist etc.
No one but me found his diagnosis. It may take some time. My son was also abused by his father.
All I can say is hang in there remember you are in it for the long haul. It sounds like things are very tough right now for you. I pray a lot and will pray for you and your son.I am new to this board. Bye