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I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on

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    M F
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    I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working, does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a close eye on her, she doesn't know where she would be today.

    Also is myspace safer these days. He has it set up that only those he allows to be
    his friends can go on. I would like to be able to go on and check it every now and then, but I don't want him to know that I'm doing it. The reason is a friend of mine knows someone who's son had a secret relationship with a gay adult for 2 years and the father (an attorney) and mom (a nurse) didn't have a clue. We have all heard stories about internet and I don't want to be sorry later. I would like to be able to trust my kids at all times, but to me that is not a good choice. Please don't tell me that I should because it is not going to happen here, I have tried it. How can I go on his myspace and check it. I have access to his e mails, but they don't use that much these days. Also if he finds out that I'm checking his myspace he can open another myspace account.

    Your input is appreciated,
    Melissa





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    Thomas & Tracy Harris
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    there is a program that you can download that will monitor their chatting, and I believe Myspace, and it's free, or at least it was.

    it's called imsafer.

    Thomas & Tracy Harris
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    ----- Original Message -----
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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">
    I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working, does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a close eye on her, she doesn't know where she would be today.

    Also is myspace safer these days. He has it set up that only those he allows to be his friends can go on. I would like to be able to go on and check it every now and then, but I don't want him to know that I'm doing it. The reason is a friend of mine knows someone who's son had a secret relationship with a gay adult for 2 years and the father (an attorney) and mom (a nurse) didn't have a clue. We have all heard stories about internet and I don't want to be sorry later. I would like to be able to trust my kids at all times, but to me that is not a good choice. Please don't tell me that I should because it is not going to happen here, I have tried it. How can I go on his myspace and check it. I have access to his e mails, but they don't use that much these days. Also if he finds out that I'm checking his myspace he can open another myspace account.

    Your input is appreciated,
    Melissa





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    nyislandgirl
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    I had the same problem but the way that I handled it, is by having my own myspace account and I asked my children to add me. At first they thought that I was too old to have an account. They helped me design it because I didn't have a clue on how to do so. They designed it really nice. Well, to make a long story short, they added me on and so did their friends because they thought it was weird that I had a myspace account. I try not to let the kids know that I'm checking on them. Unfortunately, this is the only way that I can get in touch with my nieces and nephews. Whenever I see that my children's "myspace mood" is bad, I sit down and talk with them. At times, they'll tell me whats on their mind,and at times, they won't. As long as they know that I'm here for them, they feel safe. I raised my
    children with trust and thank God so far it has worked. They've made mistakes and learned from them. All we can do is to be there for them.

    --- On Mon, 8/11/08, M F <milicaf35@yahoo.com> wrote:

    From: M F <milicaf35@yahoo.com>
    Subject: Budget101.com : Need advice on the PSP and myspace
    To: thecompact@yahoogroups.com, Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, BudgetHomemaking@yahoogroups.com, , bringbacksimplicity@yahoogroups.com
    Date: Monday, August 11, 2008, 1:02 AM


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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">
    I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working, does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a close eye on her, she doesn't know where she would be today.

    Also is myspace safer these days. He has it set up that only those he allows to be his friends can go on. I would like to be able to go on and check it every now and then, but I don't want him to know that I'm doing it. The reason is a
    friend of mine knows someone who's son had a secret relationship with a gay adult for 2 years and the father (an attorney) and mom (a nurse) didn't have a clue. We have all heard stories about internet and I don't want to be sorry later. I would like to be able to trust my kids at all times, but to me that is not a good choice. Please don't tell me that I should because it is not going to happen here, I have tried it. How can I go on his myspace and check it. I have access to his e mails, but they don't use that much these days. Also if he finds out that I'm checking his myspace he can open another myspace account.

    Your input is appreciated,
    Melissa






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    Jacqui Caruso
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    I do not know much about myspace, only what my friends have told me about it. You can create your own myspace account & then you can become his "friend" and check what&#39;s on there (blog entries, people who are also his "friends", etc). Usually you can become his "friend" by entering his last name/email address. Obviously you know his last name so go that route.

    I refuse to spend the $$ on PSP so my dd does not have one. If I remember correct the reason I absolutely refused to buy her one was because of articles I read online about kids going on line with them & at 11 I plain out didn&#39;t trust her curiosity to even entertain the idea of the purchase.

    HTH,
    Jacqui C.a mean mom in NE Georgia


    On Mon, Aug 11, 2008 at 1:02 AM, M F <milicaf35@yahoo.com> wrote:



    <div style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">

    I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won&#39;t let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can&#39;t seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working, does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a close eye on her, she doesn&#39;t know where she would be today.
    [/quote]



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    Elizabeth Farnsworth
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    Yes you can go on my space with a psp, so, when he's not allowed on the

    computer it'd be wise

    to take the psp away during that time as well. He can also go to his friends

    house and use their computers, psp etc.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/in...3230303AApGxyJ



    As to going on his my space without him knowing....you'd either have to make up

    your own my space page and pretend to be someone else and

    have him allow you as a friend to "see" his my space or get his password and log

    in.



    You can also get a program that will log all activity on the computer, ie

    passwords, pages visited, what's said in instant messaging chat etc. Oh and

    another thing,

    you should be able to block your network so he cannot use it to get to the

    "computer" via his psp. Make sure your network is secure so others cannot use it

    unless you give permission.



    My now 23 yr old son was very handy with the computer just like me and when he

    was 16 he'd bypass my screensaver password and get on to the net to look at

    things

    he shouldn't have been looking at so I got even more savvy and put in a BIOS

    password, because when you rebooted the computer you could get to the net before

    it went to password and with a BIOS password it's more difficult....it worked

    for me anyway.



    Good luck! From a mom to 5 adult children, one 15yr old and G'Ma to 5 g'children







    Elizabeth Farnsworth

    Shaklee Independent Health/Wellness Representative














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    Charlotte
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    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">You can get
    onto the internet via the PSP (per my 13 yo son) using your wireless connection.
    But 1<sup>st</sup> you have to set it up via a USB cable (which he has probably
    already done). Have your DD look at his settings and make sure the
    parental controls are set up for his PSP, also <grin>
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">LOL! My
    son’s DS stays in the car – if need be I can always lock it and
    keep the keys with me.
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">Myspace is just
    as bad now as it always was.
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">




    From: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com [mailto:Budget101_@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of M F

    Sent: Monday, August 11, 2008
    12:02 AM

    To: thecompact@yahoogroups.com; Budget101_@yahoogroups.com;
    BudgetHomemaking@yahoogroups.com; ;
    bringbacksimplicity@yahoogroups.com

    Subject: Budget101.com : Need advice
    on the PSP and myspace




    14.0pt;">I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a
    password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on
    the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub.
    At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able
    to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet
    service.

    Your input is appreciated,

    Melissa




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    L
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    According to my husband who works with computers for a
    well-known company you can get onto the internet via wireless connection even
    with parental controls, because you can get on with someone else’s
    wireless connection. Of course, I would not be savvy enough to do this, but
    many of today’s teens are. L




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    arobert6@juno.com
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    You may want to use logging software. You can either buy it or get it online (sometimes you get a free trial). Your child will have absolutely no idea that their every move is being tracked and placed in an invisible file only you can get into and review. Or you while your child is online you can switch your settings so you can share files and use another computer and literally see everything they are seeing while on your own computer, but they would know you are there, so this is why some parents like logging software.





    Kim Komando has some suggestions and an article on it at her site.


    God bless, Alice
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    Christena Leverton
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    Also, if nobody else is on any of yourcomputers at that time, and he disappears with his PSP...you can always just turn off the wireless router! I bet he will reappear in a flash...

    Christena



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    cmboyd_1999
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    Is your son's profile public? because if it's not unless you have his

    password there is no way you'll be able to see his all account... You

    would be able to see his comments that were left for him if it were

    public but you still wouldn't be able to see his emails. that being

    said, at some point you just have to trust him... Myspace is about as

    safe as any social networking place in my opinion. I have an account

    to keep up with family and I got all kinds of hassle from several

    people because I chose to keep it when stuff started to come out. My

    account has been hacked (password stolen) twice in the 2(?) years

    I've had my account and I figured it out before anything could be

    done to my account. NOW when that happens, your account gets frozen

    until you change your password. Although some damage can still be

    done - atleast you know it's been hacked and can fix it. As for the

    friend's son... if they really wanted to keep something a secret it's

    really not that hard because if you check myspace he could use

    facebook, if you check those, there will always be something new. or

    like some one else said - he could have whole other profile you don't

    even know about. There just comes a point when you just have to trust

    that you raised him right.



    hth!



    --- In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, M F <milicaf35@...> wrote:

    >

    > I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a

    password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on

    going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or

    in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am

    wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We

    have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know

    his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working,

    does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister

    who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a

    close eye on her, she doesn't know where she would be today.

    >

    > Also is myspace safer these days. He has it set up that only those

    he allows to be his friends can go on. I would like to be able to go

    on and check it every now and then, but I don't want him to know that

    I'm doing it. The reason is a friend of mine knows someone who's son

    had a secret relationship with a gay adult for 2 years and the father

    (an attorney) and mom (a nurse) didn't have a clue. We have all

    heard stories about internet and I don't want to be sorry later. I

    would like to be able to trust my kids at all times, but to me that

    is not a good choice. Please don't tell me that I should because it

    is not going to happen here, I have tried it. How can I go on his

    myspace and check it. I have access to his e mails, but they don't

    use that much these days. Also if he finds out that I'm checking his

    myspace he can open another myspace account.

    >

    > Your input is appreciated,

    > Melissa

    >










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    snottygirl1
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    Hi Melissa, Oh the life with teens I can so feel your worries. I am a

    Mom of four two boys (22 and 20 both moved away) and two girls (16

    and 17). I work in the industry so my kids are beat with trying

    to "sneak" anything on our PC.

    The PSP can be blocked from using your internet connection by not

    allowing your wirelss router to accept any MAC address but ones that

    you enter into an allow list. This will disallow the connection from

    the PSP unless its mac address is entered in the allow list, as well

    as anyone else trying to use your services. If you google the type of

    wirless router that you have you should be able to get to the

    manufactorers site which will have detailed instructions. If your son

    is savvy and any of your neighbors have an unsecure wireless router

    he could tap into their connection, not much you could do to prevent

    this besides taking out the wirless card from the PSP(not

    recommended).



    I have strict rules with my girls about their My Space and Facebook

    pages. It is very difficult to be sure that they dont give you one

    site and actually use another. Fortunatly, too many people know them

    and are quick to let me know when something unacceptable is on their

    sites. Also, I am not sure if you or your son is aware of this, the

    police have free reign on My Space and Facebook. Meaning that they

    can view all user sites regardless of whether or not it is set to

    private. And believe me they do, so like I tell my kids and their

    friends, if you wouldnt personally share it with me don't put it out

    there!








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    Debbie
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    <FONT face="Arial" color="#0000ff">What is PSP? for me PSP is Paint shop pro, LOL... I have heard of Myspace as 2 of my daughters have accounts and keep in touch with freinds with that.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#0000ff">Debbie
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    ----- Original Message -----
    From: Jacqui Caruso
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Sent: Monday, August 11, 2008 2:12 PM
    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : Need advice on the PSP and myspace







    I do not know much about myspace, only what my friends have told me about it. You can create your own myspace account & then you can become his "friend" and check what's on there (blog entries, people who are also his "friends", etc). Usually you can become his "friend" by entering his last name/email address. Obviously you know his last name so go that route.

    I refuse to spend the $$ on PSP so my dd does not have one. If I remember correct the reason I absolutely refused to buy her one was because of articles I read online about kids going on line with them & at 11 I plain out didn't trust her curiosity to even entertain the idea of the purchase.

    HTH,
    Jacqui C.a mean mom in NE Georgia


    <DIV class="gmail_quote">On Mon, Aug 11, 2008 at 1:02 AM, M F <SPAN dir="ltr"><milicaf35@yahoo.com> wrote:

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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">
    I have a 16 yr old who is limited on the internet. He needs a password to get on to the computer. At times when he insists on going on the internet and I won't let him, he goes off to his room or in the tub. At that time I can't seem to find his PSP. I am wondering if he is able to use it to get on myspace/internet. We have wireless internet service. He is overall a good kid. I know his whereabouts, no substence abuse, is in sports and is now working, does well in school, etc. And then there is that BUT. His sister who is now 20 tells me every now and then that if I had not kept a close eye on her, she doesn't know where she would be today.


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    Lucy Anderson
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    That&#39;s one I forgot. The kids start arguing about bedtime and IM&#39;ing.... So I just walk into my bedroom and pull the cord on the router. "Gosh - I don&#39;t know - the internet just crashed..." (wink wink - they know better!!!)


    And now I have the rules set up on our proxy so that, at bedtime, the only page that goes out (no matter what address they try to hit) is "Hey - bedtime and the Internet is asleep.... "


    On Tue, Aug 12, 2008 at 8:56 AM, Christena Leverton <xtenamarie@gmail.com> wrote:







    Also, if nobody else is on any of yourcomputers at that time, and he disappears with his PSP...you can always just turn off the wireless router! I bet he will reappear in a flash...

    Christena[/quote]





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    Lucy Anderson
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    This is true. If your neighbors are running an unsecured connection. (Which I am at the moment - stupid me) Thank you for reminding me that there is a lot more at stake than just our internet security - totally forgot that the neighborhood kids could be getting into trouble .....


    [going home to re-secure our network]

    On Mon, Aug 11, 2008 at 7:32 PM, L <lcove2000@cox.net> wrote:











    <font face="Arial" size="2"> 10pt;font-family: Arial;">According to my husband who works with computers for a
    well-known company you can get onto the internet via wireless connection even
    with parental controls, because you can get on with someone else's
    wireless connection. Of course, I would not be savvy enough to do this, but
    many of today's teens are. L[/quote]





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    Charlotte
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    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">I can tell you
    don’t have any young kids. <grin>
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">PSP means something
    like Personal Playstation.
    <font size="2" color="blue" face="Comic Sans MS">11.0pt;font-family:"Comic Sans MS";color:blue;">




    From: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com [mailto:Budget101_@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Debbie

    Sent: Wednesday, August 13, 2008
    8:47 AM

    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com

    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : Need
    advice on the PSP and myspace







    <font size="3" color="blue" face="Arial">
    12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:blue;">What is PSP?




    <font size="3" color="blue" face="Arial">
    12.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:blue;">Debbie




 

 
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