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<FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well

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    nauticalnana
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    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">
    times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">



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    Christine Bergeron
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    I know what you mean about money being tight I have 5 kids 5, 6, 8, 10 & 11 we can't give them any money so no allowance what so ever and we had to tell them this year no summer vacations or Christmas So how do you explain Santa can't afford to give them gifts but their friends and cousins will be getting gifts......

    --- On Thu, 7/3/08, nauticalnana <nauticalnana@comcast.net> wrote:

    From: nauticalnana <nauticalnana@comcast.net>
    Subject: Budget101.com : allowance question
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 4:19 PM


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    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">




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    Sally Vanwinkle
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    Hi,if you have a local community park you can take them swimming it's free here in Tulsa,OK..We also have a free skate park where you can inline,skateboard or ride bikes.Play tennis, basketball or any sports that they might be interested in,spending quality time with your son's. They can also rent movies at the library,check for for free coupons,google free things to do in your howntown.They can visit a special friend they haven't seen in a while.Be a freecycle member and post a wanted message for recreational items for free.I hope this helps or give you some ideas at least.

    SallyVW

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    <font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.<font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"<font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">




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    Lucy Anderson
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    I can&#39;t afford allowances either... but here was something I heard that looked kinda neat.

    Take the household&#39;s profit (amount from your paychecks after you have paid the necessaries) and give them each 1%. This way, it is like running a business. Your job is to bring home the check - their job is to do well in school and help the household economize by doing their jobs (clean rooms and well done laundry saves money). What they do directly affects what they get. If my kids leave the lights on downstairs all night I say "hey - there is less money because I had to pay the electricity bill." If they tear their clothes, "Hey - I had to replace your jeans again, so less money."


    I have 5 kids at home, so 5% was a bit daunting, but I might be able to do it now.... hmmm......




    On Thu, Jul 3, 2008 at 1:19 PM, nauticalnana <nauticalnana@comcast.net> wrote:








    <font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <font color="#000000" face="Arial" size="2">


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  5. #5
    Char
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    <FONT color="#008080">For later....
    <FONT color="#008080">When school starts again, I give my son an allowance equal to what it costs him to buy his lunches at school. Then he can either choose to buy his lunch or make it and save his $$$(and I have sandwich fixings at home). He generally chooses to buy lunches, and doesn't always spen his $$$. And in the past he has given his friends some $$$, and learned the hard way, it won't get replaced when he does that <grin>.
    <FONT color="#008080">
    <FONT color="#008080">As far as now is concerned, can you post amounts per job on a whiteboard on your fridge and whichever kid does the job, gets 'paid'. They get paid less for a job not well done.
    <FONT color="#008080">
    ----- Original Message ----- <DIV style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4;">From: nauticalnana
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    times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance.



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    Donna Cosey
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    --- On Thu, 7/3/08, Sally Vanwinkle <jaggpegg@yahoo.com> wrote:

    From: Sally Vanwinkle <jaggpegg@yahoo.com>
    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : allowance question
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 2:51 PM


    <DIV id="yiv1688303717">

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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: times new roman, new york, times, serif;">My kids there are 4 of them including my niecewho isn't a child but acts like one most of the time and myself who do the household chores. I have a white board calendar up with five chores and they rotate each day, we have told them that we would give them allowance if they did the rooms (right the first time) and their daily chores if we didn't have to remind them. I also put up a chart in all areas of how I expected things to be done. So they have a choice they can do it without being told (and they have no excuses to say they didn't know) or they can wait to be told. I think the most in a year that we have given in allowances is $20.00, because the choose to be lazy and play the games and stuff before they do their chores. So until they get wise and do stuff on their own, they have to go find spending money somewhere else, cause I
    don't get spending money for me and I do my chores everyday.


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    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">





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    copacobana5424
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    We sometimes give our children coupons as rewards when we can't afford

    money. There is even a free website where you can print them ( I

    think it was DLTK or something like that) We have come up with

    many "different" ideas such as "Day off from chores (they love that

    one), Extra hours up at night, Picking a special treat when we do

    grocery shopping, 5 min. Back rub, making favorite meal (they pick as

    long as it isn't Lobster, LOL!, spending time playing a board game with

    Mom & Dad, Extra hour of video games, bike rides with Mom & Dad, wild

    coupon is they get to pick which coupon they want, etc." It's funny

    because I often see that what they pick is time with Mom or Dad (even

    sometimes now that they are older they still like it, just not in front

    of the "friends" LoL!) It is harder when they get older because a lot

    of their friends will have cash on them and when they see that it will

    be hard. I would just explain it as best as you can to them and tell

    them it is temporary.








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    mem68
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    Christine, your children are so young. Couldn't you do Christmas w/ a meal that everyone had helped to make, let each one tell what Christmas means to me, maybe eat by candles that you already have, let each do a craft w/ paper,crayons,etc for each other. Christmas should not be about money for all of us. Use your imagination and this will be the best Christmas you have ever had.
    Use praise for the chores instead of an allowance. Prayers coming your way.
    [quote]
    ----- Original Message -----
    From: Christine Bergeron
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    <TD vAlign="top">I know what you mean about money being tight I have 5 kids 5, 6, 8, 10 & 11 we can't give them any money so no allowance what so ever and we had to tell them this year no summer vacations or Christmas So how do you explain Santa can't afford to give them gifts but their friends and cousins will be getting gifts......

    --- On Thu, 7/3/08, nauticalnana <nauticalnana@comcast.net> wrote:

    From: nauticalnana <nauticalnana@comcast.net>
    Subject: Budget101.com : allowance question
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 4:19 PM


    <DIV id="yiv2026730717">




    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">






    <FONT color="#ffffff">




  9. #9
    Cindy
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    I know that Christmas and Birthday should be all new things,

    But I have 4 kids, and Goodwill,yard sale are great,

    Clearence (Sorry about spelling) Racks are great to,

    I got my almost 17 year old Daughter a "brand new Prom Dress" From

    Goodwil for $7.oo her Shoes for $3, and I made there Flowers, out of

    $1. flowers from big lots, there whole night cost us $30.

    last Christmas we spent under $200. for all for kids,

    boy my boys ages 15 and 12 got mp 3 players, $10. each for Big

    lots, my oldest daughter is married and they got a toaster and a

    coffee maker, $22. for both also found a hand made quilt for $3. at a

    yard sale. and made then a basket of homemade jams and breads,

    wich I was just told that they are just now done with the jams and a

    hint! hint! MOM

    My boys also got, Clothes,CD that my Hubby burned for them,

    My 17 year old Daughter CD's burned by daddy,I made her 4 new

    outfits for school, designer clothes, made by Mom but I have gotten

    orders for her friend so they can have designer clothes too,

    all 4 kids get new towels that I buy cheap towel and make them look

    like they are EXpenive (Sp) as far as vacation, look in your own

    yardback there are alot of thing that you can do for free,

    like camping in your backyard, pitch a tent, fire up the grill tell

    ghost stories have hotdog on stick and so'mores go on nature walks at

    your local parks

    Hey we have been all over the world and never left our back yard,

    Take vacations isn't so much about where you go but how much fun you

    have

    and memories can be made any where

    Cindy of Indiana













    --- In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Christine Bergeron

    <bergeronkids5@...> wrote:

    >

    > I know what you mean about money being tight I have 5 kids 5, 6, 8,

    10 & 11 we can't give them any money so no allowance what so ever and

    we had to tell them this year no summer vacations or Christmas So how

    do you explain Santa can't afford to give them gifts but their

    friends and cousins will be getting gifts......

    >

    > --- On Thu, 7/3/08, nauticalnana <nauticalnana@...> wrote:

    >

    > From: nauticalnana <nauticalnana@...>

    > Subject: Budget101.com : allowance question

    > To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com

    > Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 4:19 PM

    >

    >

    >

    >

    >

    >

    >

    > times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my

    children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71

    per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i

    need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw,

    they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs

    are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for

    their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their

    laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv,

    and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited

    on time to do these things.

    > Sher

    > "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of

    great faith!"

    >

    >

    >










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    mem68
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    don't forget Walmart freebies.They are tried and true and you rec soon.

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    From: "copacobana5424" <lcove2000@cox.net>

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    Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2008 6:28 PM

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    > We sometimes give our children coupons as rewards when we can't afford

    > money. There is even a free website where you can print






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    Donna Cosey
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    Sign up for food baskets, I go to the Salvation Army for church and during xmas they give our food baskets and toys, at this point just don't let them know it wasn't you I have had to do that before. Also ask the schools if they know of any programs. I know sometimes schools will help out discreetly too.





    <FONT face="comic sans ms" color="#a040ff">Donna Cosey
    <FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#a040ff">NICE~n~COSEY Candles
    <FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#a040ff">Hand poured 100%SOY Candles
    <FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#a040ff">
    <FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#a040ff">


    --- On Fri, 7/4/08, mem68 <mildreda@lcs.net> wrote:

    From: mem68 <mildreda@lcs.net>
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    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Date: Friday, July 4, 2008, 3:29 AM


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    Christine, your children are so young. Couldn't you do Christmas w/ a meal that everyone had helped to make, let each one tell what Christmas means to me, maybe eat by candles that you already have, let each do a craft w/ paper,crayons, etc for each other. Christmas should not be about money for all of us. Use your imagination and this will be the best Christmas you have ever had.
    Use praise for the chores instead of an allowance. Prayers coming your way.
    [quote]
    ----- Original Message -----
    From: Christine Bergeron
    To: Budget101_@yahoogro ups.com
    Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2008 2:39 PM
    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : allowance question


    <TABLE cellSpacing="0" cellPadding="0" border="0">


    <TD vAlign="top">I know what you mean about money being tight I have 5 kids 5, 6, 8, 10 & 11 we can't give them any money so no allowance what so ever and we had to tell them this year no summer vacations or Christmas So how do you explain Santa can't afford to give them gifts but their friends and cousins will be getting gifts......

    --- On Thu, 7/3/08, nauticalnana <nauticalnana@ comcast.net> wrote:

    From: nauticalnana <nauticalnana@ comcast.net>
    Subject: Budget101.com : allowance question
    To: Budget101_@yahoogro ups.com
    Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 4:19 PM


    <DIV id="yiv2026730717">




    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">times are really hard here and i can no longer afford to give my children their small allowance. we have been giving them each .71 per day, if chores were not done they lost that days allowance. i need some ideas on how to reward them for their jobs well done. btw, they dont get paid for everything they do, they know that most jobs are to help the family live comfortably. they get allowance for their personal chores like keeping their room clean, putting their laundry away, etc. they are boys ages 13 and 10. video games, tv, and computer time wont really work i think, because they are limited on time to do these things.
    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">Sher
    "Faith is not developed by miracles. Miracles are a result of great faith!"

    <FONT face="Arial" color="#000000" size="2">







    <FONT color="#ffffff">





  12. #12
    mem68
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    Invite the grandparents over to tell the history of their parents and when

    they were young.

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    From: "Cindy" <dsbaby14@hotmail.com>

    To: <Budget101_@yahoogroups.com>

    Sent: Friday, July 04, 2008 5:45 AM

    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : allowance question







    I know that Christmas and Birthday should be all new things,

    But I have 4 kids, and Goodwill,yard sale are great,

    Clearence (Sorry about spelling) Racks are great to,

    I got my almost 17 year old Daughter a "brand new Prom Dress" From








  13. #13
    Stephanie Dark
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    My kids are 6 & 9. I don't give them an allowance for doing basic

    chores around the house that is expected of them. However, now that

    they are on vacation and don't have homework, while I have increased

    the amount of daily chores expected of them, I have instituted two

    rewards: For doing the basics, they get to have their screen time the

    next day (they choose 30 mins of TV, computer game, or video game);

    for anything I deem above and beyond the basics they get a "bonus

    ticket" that will go towards a larger reward closer to the end of

    summer. Larger reward has yet to be determined, but my younger wants

    an ice cream sundae bar and my older one wants 2 hrs of screen time at

    one time. They have received tickets for such things as conserving

    water, doing chores w/out being nagged, showing compassion and helping

    to their sibling or a pet, etc.



    They each get a small weekly allowance, which started out at 50-cents

    when they were 5 and have received a 50-cent increase every birthday

    (while this allowance is probably larger than in some parts of the

    country b/c we are in the SF Bay Area where cost of living is high, it

    is significantly lower than many of their schoolmates). Once a week,

    we put 50% into Spend, and divide the rest into Save, Donate, Invest

    (they each have a piggy bank w/4 chambers but you can just have simple

    jars, envelopes, etc.). It is not tied to anything, though

    periodically when they have been extremely naughty I will fine them

    for misbehaving. I do make them pay for more things than most of

    their peers so they can decide how important it is they get a certain

    physical item, piece of candy, etc (they are surprisingly stingy most

    of the time). My goal with an allowance, no matter how big or small,

    is to get them to be good savers and spenders no matter what the size

    of their income (and I am hoping they will manage their money better

    than myself).



    Hope this helps.

    Stephanie








  14. #14
    Val Coulman
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    This sounds like a great system. My kids are a little older and their allowances aren&#39;t very big either but once they hit pre-teen years, we transfer a certain portion of our budget each year for them to manage ie. One year they get the amount we typically allocate them for gifts and they are responsible for all their gift giving (with our oversight of course), the next year they get their clothing budget, etc. Our plan is to have them actually manage our household budget for us in their junior or senior year to give them an accurate picture of what it&#39;s like to have a budget and manage living expenses, etc before they head out of the house. We&#39;ll see how it works...


    On Sat, Jul 5, 2008 at 9:37 AM, Stephanie Dark <thedarks@astound.net> wrote:

    My kids are 6 & 9. I don&#39;t give them an allowance for doing basic

    chores around the house that is expected of them. However, now that

    they are on vacation and don&#39;t have homework, while I have increased

    the amount of daily chores expected of them, I have instituted two

    rewards: For doing the basics, they get to have their screen time the

    next day (they choose 30 mins of TV, computer game, or video game);

    for anything I deem above and beyond the basics they get a "bonus

    ticket" that will go towards a larger reward closer to the end of

    summer.
    [/quote]
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    Val Coulman
    vcoulman@gmail.com



 

 

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