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My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would never get done otherwise. -- Anggie

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  1. #1
    Anggie Thompson
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    Default OT: Graduation Thank you notes


    My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would never get done otherwise.

    --
    Anggie
    Fight Breast cancer......no one should die from it
    http://anggie-ggslife.blogspot.com/




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    Katherine Lassiter
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    <FONT face="comic sans ms" color="#007f40" size="3">If he is too busy to write them, he needs to return the gifts. It is just rude. I had to nag my son to write his, but it doesn't take long. Children/young adults need to know how important this is. It is a habit that should be life-long. I have 3 people on my 'list in my head' who did not thank me for gifts and they will never get another one. They were a baby gift, a graduation gift and a wedding gift.


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    Talea Ranker
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    <div style="font-family:lucida console,sans-serif;font-size:14pt;"><div style="font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;font-size: 14pt;">I'm sorry, I just think it's crazy. If you actually have to get a card that says thank you in order to give another gift then it's not worth receiving one from you. I never ever do this to another person. Yes it's great to receive a thank you, yes it's rude of the other person. I don't give a gift expecting anything at all in return, to do so in my opinion defeats the purpose of giving. In today's world things get so hectic and crazy I know I don't write a thank you to every single thing I receive. I trust the gift was given out of love and say thank you to the person at the next opportunity. I was never taught to send a thank you, my mother also believed it needed to be a genuine sentiment, not a
    required one.
    ~Tee

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    From: Katherine Lassiter <khlassiter57@yahoo.com>
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    <font color="#007f40" face="comic sans ms" size="3">If he is too busy to write them, he needs to return the gifts. It is just rude. I had to nag my son to write his, but it doesn't take long. Children/young adults need to know how important this is. It is a habit that should be life-long. I have 3 people on my 'list in my head' who did not thank me for gifts and they will never get another one. They were a baby gift, a graduation gift and a wedding gift.


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  4. #4
    Ann Garner
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    At 07:18 AM 6/27/2008, you wrote:

    >My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He

    >has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for

    >graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards

    >and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would

    >never get done otherwise.

    Does he ever sit and watch tv? If so, set the cards, envelopes, ink

    pen, everything he needs in a small container and have it by where he

    watches tv. Tell him it sure would be nice if he could get the cards

    done during commercial time. I know I get a lot of stuff done around

    here during commercial time.



    Ann in Arkansas











  5. #5
    Katherine Lassiter
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    --- On Fri, 6/27/08, Talea Ranker <teer2008@yahoo.com> wrote:




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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;">I'm sorry, I just think it's crazy. If you actually have to get a card that says thank you in order to give another gift then it's not worth receiving one from you.
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="comic sans ms" color="#c00000" size="3">*************
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3"> Well, we don't have to worry about that, now do we?
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3">
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3"> In the case of the gifts I did not receive a thank you for, 2 of the gifts were delivered through family members and I never even saw the gift recipient. In the case of my son, all but 1 of his graduation gifts were sent in cards through the mail. He does need to send a written thank you.
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    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3"> During the year, he makes calls to out of town family members tothank themfor birthday and holidaygifts and thanks others in person. I usually send a thank you note to friends for gifts, as I just think it is the nice thing to do.
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3">
    <DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt;FONT-FAMILY: lucida console, sans-serif;"><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3"> You obviously disagree, but I think that wedding and baby showers, graduations and other formal-type events require written thank yous, no matter how you obtain the gift. If someone has taken the time, money and thought to go out and purchase a gift or send money, they need to be properly thanked.
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    passinflowersmail
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    --- In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Ann Garner <mystique@...> wrote:

    >

    > At 07:18 AM 6/27/2008, you wrote:

    > >My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He

    > >has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for

    > >graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards

    > >and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would

    > >never get done otherwise.

    > Does he ever sit and watch tv? If so, set the cards, envelopes, ink

    > pen, everything he needs in a small container and have it by where he

    > watches tv. Tell him it sure would be nice if he could get the cards

    > done during commercial time. I know I get a lot of stuff done around

    > here during commercial time.

    >

    > Ann in Arkansas

    >

    Sweet heart your son is going in to the army reserves and I am sure

    thank you notes are the last thing on his mind even if you remind him

    every 15 min until he leaves. I am not trying to sound rude or snappy

    I just know it a lot to think about, my husband is in the navy and

    before he goes away he is a complete space cadet










  7. #7
    babyology44
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    I agree that it should be a nice sentiment to send a thank you. I

    always take circumstances into consideration as well. For instance,

    this young man is about to head off to basic training. That is thanks

    enough for what he is giving of himself.



    On the other hand, I just sent a graduation card with money to my

    graduating family member. I was informed by my grandmother that this

    person will not be sending out thank you's as she is too self-centered

    and busy with her social life this summer. That disgusts me!







    --- In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Ann Garner <mystique@...> wrote:

    >

    > At 07:18 AM 6/27/2008, you wrote:

    > >My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He

    > >has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for

    > >graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards

    > >and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would

    > >never get done otherwise.

    > Does he ever sit and watch tv? If so, set the cards, envelopes, ink

    > pen, everything he needs in a small container and have it by where he

    > watches tv. Tell him it sure would be nice if he could get the cards

    > done during commercial time. I know I get a lot of stuff done around

    > here during commercial time.

    >

    > Ann in Arkansas

    >










  8. #8
    Talea Ranker
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    <div style="font-family:lucida console,sans-serif;font-size:14pt;"><div style="font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;font-size: 14pt;">Nope guess not.

    ----- Original Message ----
    From: Katherine Lassiter <khlassiter57@yahoo.com>
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Sent: Friday, June 27, 2008 3:59:50 PM
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    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;">I'm sorry, I just think it's crazy. If you actually have to get a card that says thank you in order to give another gift then it's not worth receiving one from you.
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="comic sans ms" size="3">************ *
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3"> Well, we don't have to worry about that, now do we?
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3"> In the case of the gifts I did not receive a thank you for, 2 of the gifts were delivered through family members and I never even saw the gift recipient. In the case of my son, all but 1 of his graduation gifts were sent in cards through the mail. He does need to send a written thank you.
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3"> During the year, he makes calls to out of town family members tothank themfor birthday and holidaygifts and thanks others in person. I usually send a thank you note to friends for gifts, as I just think it is the nice thing to do.
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">
    <div style="font-size: 14pt;font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;"><font color="#c00000" face="Comic Sans MS" size="3"> You obviously disagree, but I think that wedding and baby showers, graduations and other formal-type events require written thank yous, no matter how you obtain the gift. If someone has taken the time, money and thought to go out and purchase a gift or send money, they need to be properly thanked.
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    <div style="font-family:lucida console,sans-serif;font-size:14pt;"><div style="font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;font-size: 14pt;">I agree and I do send them out, but I know with my husband having been a truck driver there are times I forget and get busy with my three boys, and I don't get upset when I don't get one. In the case of the person who is too self absorbed, then it's what I consider a live and learn thing. I'll just know for next time, sometimes I still send a card or something small, but I know what I'm dealing with. I figure their bad manners is just that, theirs, and not my problem and don't let it upset me. I don't make my kids send them, I ask them once each year to do it, if they don't and I get calls about it I tell the truth. They couldn't be bothered and let the caller know I sympathize completely. They have
    received fewer gifts over the years, and I've asked them what they expected. They do usually at least make a special call to say thank you, and for me personally I prefer that. I like hearing a persons voice. I wasn't saying don't do it. I was just saying it shouldn't be mandatory, and not to have hurt feelings over something as little as a card and to let the chips fall where they may in their relationships. Life is too short. jmo
    ~Tee

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    I agree that it should be a nice sentiment to send a thank you. I

    always take circumstances into consideration as well. For instance,

    this young man is about to head off to basic training. That is thanks

    enough for what he is giving of himself.


    On the other hand, I just sent a graduation card with money to my

    graduating family member. I was informed by my grandmother that this

    person will not be sending out thank you's as she is too self-centered

    and busy with her social life this summer. That disgusts me!


    --- In Budget101_@yahoogro ups.com, Ann Garner <mystique@.. .> wrote:

    >

    > At 07:18 AM 6/27/2008, you wrote:

    > >My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He

    > >has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for

    > >graduating high school. Would it be ok if I have him sign the cards

    > >and I write in the actual notes to each person? The notes would

    > >never get done otherwise.

    > Does he ever sit and watch tv? If so, set the cards, envelopes, ink

    > pen, everything he needs in a small container and have it by where he

    > watches tv. Tell him it sure would be nice if he could get the cards

    > done during commercial time. I know I get a lot of stuff done around

    > here during commercial time.

    >

    > Ann in Arkansas

    >






  10. #10
    Ann Garner
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    So my suggestion of the doing them during commercials is totally off

    the mark? It was a suggestion, not an order.

    Ann in Arkansas



    >

    >Sweet heart your son is going in to the army reserves and I am sure

    >thank you notes are the last thing on his mind even if you remind him

    >every 15 min until he leaves. I am not trying to sound rude or snappy

    >I just know it a lot to think about, my husband is in the navy and

    >before he goes away he is a complete space cadet

    >










  11. #11
    Rhonda Bates
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    I don't mind when I don't get them either. I am just happy that I was able

    to get something for someone.



    On Fri, Jun 27, 2008 at 6:49 PM, Talea Ranker <teer2008@yahoo.com> wrote:



    > I agree and I do send them out, but I know with my husband having been

    > a truck driver there are times I forget and get busy with my three boys, and

    > I don't get upset when I don't get one.






  12. #12
    Therese Serres
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    My son graduated this year also and while he didn't go into the Army

    reserves he was leaving on a long road trip across the country.What he did

    was type out a nice thank you explaining where he was going to college and

    where he was going on his road trip and said thanks,etc and copied it off

    and individually sign each one. That way he only had to write it once and if

    he got more gifts while he was gone I could get those cards out fast.



    On Fri, Jun 27, 2008 at 2:13 PM, passinflowersmail <

    passinflowersmail@yahoo.com> wrote:



    > --- In Budget101_@yahoogroups.com, Ann Garner <mystique@...> wrote:

    > >

    > > At 07:18 AM 6/27/2008, you wrote:

    > > >My son is leaving for Army Reserves basic training on Tuesday. He

    > > >has yet to do thank you notes for the gifts he received for

    > > >graduating high school.






  13. #13
    leigh.drewett@ntlworld.com
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    We sent my cousin a 100 dollar cheque for his 18th birthday and the only way we

    knew he got it was it got cashed. Not even a thank you! Suffices to say he

    hasn't had a gift since!

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  14. #14
    lisa griffeth
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    That's sort of the way it goes at our house as well. If they can take time towrite outa graduation invitation to net a gift, then I think they can take time towrite outa thank you note. Having said that, my stepson did neither when he graduated this year..no invitations and no thank you's...and family still sent gifts.BTW he's also entering the military in a week or so- Air Force. If he's old enough to fight for his country, he's old enough to do the right thing and send notes when gifts are received. If he chooses to not send notes/make calls to thank people, then it's his issue...not mine.


    JMHO


    Lisa G.



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    We sent my cousin a 100 dollar cheque for his 18th birthday and the only way we knew he got it was it got cashed. Not even a thank you! Suffices to say he hasn't had a gift since!
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    J Diane Northcutt
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    I agree that it is courteous to send a thank-you note after receiving a gift. On the other hand,I don't get all in an uproar if someone does not send me the note. When I give a gift, it is because I wanted too. I give it with no strings attached .
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    I don't understand this position of -I'll give you a gift if I get a formal Thank-You, but if I don't then you never get anything from me again. Why did you give the gift to begin with? Was it because you love the person and wanted to bless them? Was it to get recognition for what you gave? Was it out of a sense of obligation and by GodI want to be recognized for for meeting that obligation.
    The graciousness with which a gift is given is just as important as the way it is received. As the giver, I am only concerned with the graciousness of my giving.

    Diane






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