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  1. #1
    Stephanie
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    Default What would you do?

    OK my fellow budget-eers, read this situation and let me know your

    thoughts.



    We just got back from a vacation. We drove, using a rental car (dad

    wanted me to pick up some things from my aunt that wouldn't fit in our

    regular car along w/our luggage). We stayed at 2 different hotels.



    My 8.75 y.o. son decides (w/out telling my husband or myself) to bring

    along a DVD we rented for him (he thought that perhaps the hotels

    would have a DVD player so he could watch it). We don't find out

    until we are on the road that this is in the car w/us.



    I do a fairly thorough inspection of both hotel rooms before leaving

    them, to make sure nothing is getting left behind obviously.



    We get home, clear out the car before returning it, and unpack. The

    DVD is nowhere to be seen. He claims it never left the car, although

    "maybe" he brought it inside the first hotel. We've called both

    hotels and the rental car agency and no one is claiming to have found it.



    He's usually a very responsible kid when it comes to electronics &

    music/movies, more so than DH and myself (we lost a cellphone charger

    on this trip), so for him to misplace it is very unusual.



    So, do I tell my son he has to pay for the lost DVD? Do my husband

    and I pay for ourselves, because we didn't warn him of the

    consequences ahead of time? Should I say we split the cost based on

    the fact that although we didn't warn him, he's old enough to know he

    has to take responsibility for his actions?



    Thanks!

    Stephanie












  2. #2
    coutant5
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    I think I would toss it up as a loss. Maybe someone stold it.
    My parents always made me pay $for every mistake I made.
    They never let anything slip by.. and they taught me one valuable lesson. They cared more about the loss of money than anything else. I wouldn't make a kid that young pay for the dvd.
    I would punish him for sneaking the video out of the house without asking. Like no video rentals for a designated amount of time. Hope this helps.
    Debbie
    [quote]
    ----- Original Message -----
    From: Stephanie
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Sent: Tuesday, April 01, 2008 3:10 PM
    Subject: Budget101.com : What would you do?





    OK my fellow budget-eers, read this situation and let me know your
    thoughts.

    We just got back from a vacation. We drove, using a rental car (dad
    wanted me to pick up some things from my aunt that wouldn't fit in our
    regular car along w/our luggage). We stayed at 2 different hotels.

    My 8.75 y.o. son decides (w/out telling my husband or myself) to bring
    along a DVD we rented for him (he thought that perhaps the hotels
    would have a DVD player so he could watch it). We don't find out
    until we are on the road that this is in the car w/us.

    I do a fairly thorough inspection of both hotel rooms before leaving
    them, to make sure nothing is getting left behind obviously.

    We get home, clear out the car before returning it, and unpack. The
    DVD is nowhere to be seen. He claims it never left the car, although
    "maybe" he brought it inside the first hotel. We've called both
    hotels and the rental car agency and no one is claiming to have found it.

    He's usually a very responsible kid when it comes to electronics &
    music/movies, more so than DH and myself (we lost a cellphone charger
    on this trip), so for him to misplace it is very unusual.

    So, do I tell my son he has to pay for the lost DVD? Do my husband
    and I pay for ourselves, because we didn't warn him of the
    consequences ahead of time? Should I say we split the cost based on
    the fact that although we didn't warn him, he's old enough to know he
    has to take responsibility for his actions?

    Thanks!
    Stephanie





  3. #3
    Dana
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    I have a 17 yr. old nephew who in the past8-9 yrs.has lost or broke 6 CDplayers....2 of them I gave to him as a gifts.Same with DVDs,CDs, and Playstation controllers. My brother would just replace it and not teach him the consequences. Two yrs. ago, my brother bought him an expensive cell phone. He was down at the pool. His phone rang and he asked his friend who was out of the pool to toss it to him and he didn't catch it so it drowned. Now my brother decides to teach him consequences by refusing to buy another one. A few months later, my nephew bought his own phone and it got broke after 3 mos. So at 16, he gets a part time job after school. My brother was changing cell providers and wanted to get a family plan so he told my nephew he would have to buy his own phone. They blocked textand let him have the web. Last month, they received their bill for
    $3,000. Though the provider was suppose to block the text and they have that on record, my nephew textedand went over the max amount and also was downloading tons of things from the web. He KNEW he wasn't suppose to have text nor DL from the web but he chose to without telling my brother. He should have gone to my brother and told him but you know how kids are. He was suppose togo to MI next month with us to visit my sister for a couple weeks but now his triphas been canceled for him to work to pay the cell bill balance. He truly is not responsible with material things. In your situtation, I believe starting early teaching kids responsibility and consequences. A 9 yr. old is old enough to understand so I would have him pay for the DVD since he took it on the trip without you or your husband knowing. Just my 2 cents.
    Dana
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    ----- Original Message ----
    From: Stephanie
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Sent: Tuesday, April 1, 2008 2:10:46 PM
    Subject: Budget101.com : What would you do?





    OK my fellow budget-eers, read this situation and let me know your
    thoughts.

    We just got back from a vacation. We drove, using a rental car (dad
    wanted me to pick up some things from my aunt that wouldn't fit in our
    regular car along w/our luggage). We stayed at 2 different hotels.

    My 8.75 y.o. son decides (w/out telling my husband or myself) to bring
    along a DVD we rented for him (he thought that perhaps the hotels
    would have a DVD player so he could watch it). We don't find out
    until we are on the road that this is in the car w/us.

    I do a fairly thorough inspection of both hotel rooms before leaving
    them, to make sure nothing is getting left behind obviously.

    We get home, clear out the car before returning it, and unpack. The
    DVD is nowhere to be seen. He claims it never left the car, although
    "maybe" he brought it inside the first hotel. We've called both
    hotels and the rental car agency
    and no one is claiming to have found it.

    He's usually a very responsible kid when it comes to electronics &
    music/movies, more so than DH and myself (we lost a cellphone charger
    on this trip), so for him to misplace it is very unusual.

    So, do I tell my son he has to pay for the lost DVD? Do my husband
    and I pay for ourselves, because we didn't warn him of the
    consequences ahead of time? Should I say we split the cost based on
    the fact that although we didn't warn him, he's old enough to know he
    has to take responsibility for his actions?

    Thanks!
    Stephanie




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  4. #4
    Dee Bleau
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    Default What would you do?

    If you did not tell him NOT to bring it then I would split the cost. If you told him NO to begin with then it would be his responsibility to pay for it. That is what I would do.

    Stephanie wrote: OK my fellow budget-eers, read this situation and let me know your
    thoughts.

    We just got back from a vacation. We drove, using a rental car (dad
    wanted me to pick up some things from my aunt that wouldn't fit in our
    regular car along w/our luggage). We stayed at 2
    different hotels.

    My 8.75 y.o. son decides (w/out telling my husband or myself) to bring
    along a DVD we rented for him (he thought that perhaps the hotels
    would have a DVD player so he could watch it). We don't find out
    until we are on the road that this is in the car w/us.

    I do a fairly thorough inspection of both hotel rooms before leaving
    them, to make sure nothing is getting left behind obviously.

    We get home, clear out the car before returning it, and unpack. The
    DVD is nowhere to be seen. He claims it never left the car, although
    "maybe" he brought it inside the first hotel. We've called both
    hotels and the rental car agency and no one is claiming to have found it.

    He's usually a very responsible kid when it comes to electronics &
    music/movies, more so than DH and myself (we lost a cellphone charger
    on this trip), so for him to misplace it is very unusual.

    So, do I tell my son he has to pay for the
    lost DVD? Do my husband
    and I pay for ourselves, because we didn't warn him of the
    consequences ahead of time? Should I say we split the cost based on

    the fact that although we didn't warn him, he's old enough to know he
    has to take responsibility for his actions?

    Thanks!
    Stephanie




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  5. #5
    CeCe Sweet
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    Default What would you do?

    Since you were going on vacation and rented the DVD,

    my thoughts are that you (as the parents) should have

    sent all rented material back before traveling.



    Therefore this incident would have never happened.



    So, I believe that you should pay for the DVD.



    CeCe





















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  6. #6
    Gypsum Moon
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    At 01:10 PM 4/1/2008, Stephanie wrote:


    <blockquote type="cite" class="cite" cite>So, do I tell my son he has to
    pay for the lost DVD? Do my husband

    and I pay for ourselves, because we didn't warn him of the

    consequences ahead of time? Should I say we split the cost based on

    the fact that although we didn't warn him, he's old enough to know
    he

    has to take responsibility for his actions?[/quote]

    If it were me - I'd have him split the cost.


    It sounds like he's already headed down the responsible

    kid path - letting him off completely might send him the

    wrong signal. At almost-9, he's old enough to know that

    he should've checked it out with you or Dad before bringing

    it along.


    Cindy in KS




  7. #7
    Tressa Watts
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    My 13 year old daughter is on her 3rd ipod in 3 years....I bought the first one..I bought a cheap shuffle for $100 for Xmas and said if you can keep it until your birthday (july) then I will upgrade to the better one...well last day of school in June somebody stole it...so she saved her money by babysitting the whole summer and bought a $350 ipod. It lasted awhile but she lost it 1.5 years later...and last one was her main Christmas present. She has been through several phones also. She forgets her jackets everywhere...I have been at my witts end. I have spoke with several parents who's kids at this age are going through the same things....I spoke with her Doctor cause I thougth her and or I were going crazy....or she was just a total ditz...LOL the Dr. said this is normal for kids this age. It is not irresponsibility. They are growing...hormones are different etc etc...it makes it very difficult for them to remember every detail....

    I make her responisble for things we have activley discussed...but for trivial things that I know she just "forgot" or misplaced....I let it go..there is so much more to worry about.

    We also had 2 $400 cell phone bills in a row...she had to pay the 2nd because the first was a mistake...the 2nd she knew better and was warned. SHe paid with her money and also lost her phone for 2 months. Mistakes can be learning experiences. But for a dvd he misplaced while on vacation I wouldnt worry about it. I personally would warn him his dvd rental priveldges would be gone if it happened again as there wasnt any consequences set before he lost this item. Believe me I have lost my fair share of items on vacation....

    Just my 2 cents..lol

    Tressa





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  8. #8
    Colleen McDonald
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    At 10:07 AM 4/2/2008, Tressa wrote:

    >...for a dvd he misplaced while on vacation I wouldnt worry about it.



    But for a DVD he misplaced WHILE DISOBEYING YOU BY TAKING IT ON

    VACATION, I would definitely want to teach him a lesson, and would

    make him pay for it.



    Colleen








 

 
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