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  1. #1
    kaykay75423
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    Default ADHD or Aspergers? Please help! Child #1

    I have been reading the post about ADHD and diet and thought maybe

    someone could help me with my problem. I have 5 children (2 are mine

    and 3 are my husbands). 3 of these children have problems. To keep

    this post from being so long, I will send 3 post about each child.

    The first child is 8 years old. I took him to a doctor when he

    started school because the teachers were complaining about his

    behavior and dislike for learning (he was 4). He went to his

    pediatrician who had the teacher and me fill out the usual

    questionaires. Then he decided he had ADHD and gave me Adderall. I

    gave him the meds for a year during which time he showed little

    improvement and became very aggressive toward anyone when things

    didn't go his way. I decided to take him off the meds.

    Now, before I get much further, I need to give you some background

    on his life. His father and I divorced when he was 3. Since we live

    in the same town, he was awarded extended visitation (against my

    wishes). He goes to his dad's house every Thursday after school and

    spends the night. He goes to dad's every other weekend on Friday

    after school and is returned to school on Monday morning. While he is

    with dad, he does whatever he wants and tells everyone else what to

    do. He goes to bed at all hours of the night and sleeps most of the

    day (except when he has to get up for school, which is hard after

    staying up late). He eats whatever he wants whenever he wants. When

    he was on meds, he only got them sometimes.

    Now, for the problems. I have 4 other children. I have a home

    daycare also. When my son comes home after spending time with his

    dad, he is out of control. I have talked with my attorney and he says

    I can't do anything about the visitation since the child is not in

    life threatening danger.

    The teachers at his school are at their wits end. He is in his

    second year of 1st grade and has no interest in learning. He hates to

    read and write. He is failing again. After school, he comes home all

    hyped up from being stuck at school all day. He is violent to the

    other children if they get in his way or anoy him. I don't even try

    to work on homework with him any more. It's just a war. He says its

    too hard and he hates school. He is hard to get to bed at night and

    hard to wake in the morning. He sleep walks alot and wets the bed on

    many occasions. He was also diagnosed with mild hearing loss but not

    enough to need aids.

    What I need to know is, who should I take him to for diagnosis of

    what he may have? I don't want to go back to the pediatrician. They

    just give out meds without really testing for all the problems. I've

    been doing a lot of research about ADHD and ODD. I'm not sure which

    he may have or where to go for help. Then again, I'm not sure if

    anything will help as long as he gets to spend so much time with his

    dad. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to keep him from his dad, but

    I've talked to dad repeatedly about about setting rules and making

    him mind. But that doesn't work.

    Sorry this is so long. I'm at my wits end and in real need of help

    before the rest of my hair turns gray and falls out.

    Thanks,

    kaykay








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    Susan Schmieg
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    If you can take him in for a nuero psych evaluation. Those are good to get an idea of what is going one. whether its adhd, anxiety, autism, learning issues etc. And it will let you know if everything is okay and its the situation. I've had them done on each of my kids it was a great help. Also you can request the school do a special ed evaulation. That way you can also find wahts going on. It may not give you all the answers but can get you going in the right direction. I'm surprised that the teachers didn't suggest it if they are at their wits end. You need to put the request in writing and if you request they have to do the evaluation. Just make sure they cover all the basis. Adhd, autism, learning issues, etc. Then if he qualifies for spec ed they will do a 504 plan or an IEP. Keep in mind if you disagree with the planyou do NOT have to sign either of those until you agree. Some school are really good when it comes to IEPs and others are not. You can also ask if as part of the evaulation or if he qualifies for spec. ed for a Funtional Behavior Assessment be done at the school. It may help if certain things are triggering behaviors in school. I would also read teh book "The Explosive Child" That is one of the 1st books I got and have reread. You can also request spec ed evaluations on the other kids if you think it is necessary.

    Sorry this is so long

    Sue
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    I have been reading the post about ADHD and diet and thought maybe
    someone could help me with my problem. I have 5 children (2 are mine
    and 3 are my husbands). 3 of these children have problems. To keep
    this post from being so long, I will send 3 post about each child.
    The first child is 8 years old. I took him to a doctor when he
    started school because the teachers were complaining about his
    behavior and dislike for learning (he was 4). He went to his
    pediatrician who had the teacher and me fill out the usual
    questionaires. Then he decided he had ADHD and gave me Adderall. I
    gave him the meds for a year during which time he showed little
    improvement and became very aggressive toward anyone when things
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  3. #3
    Candy Holbert
    Guest

    Default ADHD or Aspergers? Please help! Child #1

    Sounds like he might be bipolar. All the kids I have spent time with

    (volunteered at school) that were just ADHD weren't agressive or

    reacted in any way like this child if they didn't get their way. But

    my youngest did and not having the internet I really didnt' have a

    clue as to what caused him to be like that. But now I know he's

    bipolar and that a lot of those behaviors way back were becaue of

    that.



    Just my 2 cents

    Candy



    On 3/15/08, kaykay75423 <kaykay75423@yahoo.com> wrote:

    > I have been reading the post about ADHD and diet and thought maybe

    > someone could help me with my problem. I have 5 children (2 are mine

    > and 3 are my husbands). 3 of these children have problems. To keep

    > this post from being so long, I will send 3 post about each child.

    > The first child is 8 years old. I took him to a doctor when he

    > started school because the teachers were complaining about his

    > behavior and dislike for learning (he was 4). He went to his

    > pediatrician who had the teacher and me fill out the usual

    > questionaires. Then he decided he had ADHD and gave me Adderall. I

    > gave him the meds for a year during which time he showed little

    > improvement and became very aggressive toward anyone when things

    > didn't go his way. I decided to take him off the meds.





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  4. #4
    R NORTH
    Guest

    Default ADHD or Aspergers? Please help! Child #1

    as long as the biodad is going to let him run wild you are fighting a loosing battle ..

    Check for allergies .. allergies can manifest as sleep issues, behaviors and tactile defensivness etc

    Ria


    On 3/15/08, kaykay75423[/b] <kaykay75423@yahoo.com> wrote:







    I have been reading the post about ADHD and diet and thought maybe
    someone could help me with my problem. I have 5 children (2 are mine
    and 3 are my husbands). 3 of these children have problems. To keep
    this post from being so long, I will send 3 post about each child.

    The first child is 8 years old. I took him to a doctor when he
    started school because the teachers were complaining about his
    behavior and dislike for learning (he was 4). He went to his
    pediatrician who had the teacher and me fill out the usual

    questionaires. Then he decided he had ADHD and gave me Adderall. I
    gave him the meds for a year during which time he showed little
    improvement and became very aggressive toward anyone when things
    didn&#39;t go his way. I decided to take him off the meds.

    Now, before I get much further, I need to give you some background
    on his life. His father and I divorced when he was 3. Since we live
    in the same town, he was awarded extended visitation (against my
    wishes). He goes to his dad&#39;s house every Thursday after school and

    spends the night. He goes to dad&#39;s every other weekend on Friday
    after school and is returned to school on Monday morning. While he is
    with dad, he does whatever he wants and tells everyone else what to
    do. He goes to bed at all hours of the night and sleeps most of the

    day (except when he has to get up for school, which is hard after
    staying up late). He eats whatever he wants whenever he wants. When
    he was on meds, he only got them sometimes.
    Now, for the problems. I have 4 other children. I have a home

    daycare also. When my son comes home after spending time with his
    dad, he is out of control. I have talked with my attorney and he says
    I can&#39;t do anything about the visitation since the child is not in
    life threatening danger.

    The teachers at his school are at their wits end. He is in his
    second year of 1st grade and has no interest in learning. He hates to
    read and write. He is failing again. After school, he comes home all
    hyped up from being stuck at school all day. He is violent to the

    other children if they get in his way or anoy him. I don&#39;t even try
    to work on homework with him any more. It&#39;s just a war. He says its
    too hard and he hates school. He is hard to get to bed at night and

    hard to wake in the morning. He sleep walks alot and wets the bed on
    many occasions. He was also diagnosed with mild hearing loss but not

    enough to need aids.
    What I need to know is, who should I take him to for diagnosis of

    what he may have? I don&#39;t want to go back to the pediatrician. They
    just give out meds without really testing for all the problems. I&#39;ve
    been doing a lot of research about ADHD and ODD. I&#39;m not sure which

    he may have or where to go for help. Then again, I&#39;m not sure if
    anything will help as long as he gets to spend so much time with his
    dad. Don&#39;t get me wrong, I don&#39;t want to keep him from his dad, but

    I&#39;ve talked to dad repeatedly about about setting rules and making
    him mind. But that doesn&#39;t work.
    Sorry this is so long. I&#39;m at my wits end and in real need of help
    before the rest of my hair turns gray and falls out.

    Thanks,
    kaykay






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    brenda allen
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    Default ADHD or Aspergers? Please help! Child #1

    Hi:
    I have a grown son who was first diagnosed with ADD he really has Asperger's Syndrome and Tourette Syndrome. He is OCD as well. They totally missed the asperger's and it wasn't until he was in grade 8 that a teacher discovered he has tourette syndrome.He was seen by a 2 neurologist,psychiatrist,social workers,resource teacher,psychologist etc. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">No one but me found his diagnosis. It may take some time. My son was also abused by his father. All I can say is hang in there remember you are in it for the long haul. It sounds like things are very tough right now for you. I pray a lot and will pray for you and your son.I am new to this board.
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    Donna Shad
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    Default ADHD or Aspergers? Please help! Child #1

    Try reducing the dose (dr. approval of course). That's

    what we did and it worked for a while. Sometimes the

    med is to much at one time.

    Donna









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