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  1. #1
    Liss
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    Another Thread ...



    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?



    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?



    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to

    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?



    Just curious.



    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do

    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it

    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how

    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and

    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are

    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of

    a take-out box, lol.



    ~Liss








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    Tracy Latour
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    <div style="font-family:verdana, helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:12pt;"><DIV style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt;FONT-FAMILY: verdana, helvetica, sans-serif;">My daughter is five 1/2 and she is required to clean up after each meal. When I am cleaning the house she helps me often. That is about it. No, she does not get an allowance.
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    Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss


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    Pj
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    My children are very spoiled. I have a very simple chore chart and they each have only one assigned chore each day. I tell them that is a reason to be grateful for a large family! If they had less siblings, they'd have more chores! The chore chart rotates each week. They are alsosupposed to make their bed daily and keep their bedroom picked up. They also have to bring their dirty clothes to the laundry room (only if they want their clothes washed!) and take their clean clothes from the laundry room to their bedroom (preferably in their drawers!) I don't go into kids bedrooms to find clothes to wash. It only takes a time or two of having your 10-14 yo realize they have no clean clothes before school, and after that they are better at bringing clothes to laundry. I also tell my kids that the "Laundry Fairy" does not come in the middle of the night, so don't ever expect the clothes to be clean for school the next day, when you take them to the laundry room the night
    before. Aren't I mean and sarcastic? lol I do not give my kids allowance to do chores. When the subject comes up, I always say that as soon as someone pays me to clean my own house, I'll pay them! However, I always have extra chores that are worth money for those who are trying to earn/save. It's really easy to write a list of what needs to be down and how much it's worth, and put it on the bulletin board. My 10 yodd is always keeping a running list of what extra chores she did and how much they're worth. She knows that when she wants the money I'll give it to her - that way she is less apt to lose it, or have one of the little kids find her money and lose it!


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    My son is 12 and he's been able todo his own laundry for about a year now. (Wash, dry, put away)
    He alsowashes, dries and puts away the dishes on alternating nights with me.
    He mops, sweeps, vacuums, dusts, takes out trash.

    He does not get "paid" for it, as this is part of the thankless job that we all do in our family.

    However, he does get "coupons" once a week if he completes his chores without whining. Coupons are good for a free room cleaning by mom, a chore-free night, video game rentals, a special treat (ice cream cone, candy bar, etc.) or having a friend over.
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    ----- Original Message ----
    From: Liss <liss@budget101.com>
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    Sent: Monday, March 10, 2008 12:08:37 PM
    Subject: Budget101.com : Parenting- Chores- Children





    Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss





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    Christine Bergeron
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    My kids are ages 5, 6, 8, 10, & 11 They do chores for FREE Help with walking the 4 dogs & feeding them Cleaning bunny and hamster cages Vaccumming Dishes picking up any messes they make Trash to outside barrel and on trash day bring to curb and anything else they would like to help with My 5 yr old daughter is home so she helps with laundry,mopping the floor,sweeping, paying the bills, whatever I am doing etc. Christine

    Liss <liss@budget101.com> wrote: Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss




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    Tressa Watts
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    I am a bad mom...my daughter has very little chores except for keeping her room clean and cleaning the bathroom on occassion. My daughter has a very FULL schedule. She does a homework club after school then goes to weight training from 4:30-530 then basketball from 5:30-7. Oh thursdays she leaves basketball early (it is the off season) she then goes to volleyball from 7-9:15 on Thursday. School ball changes the schedule from homework club to school sports...

    Weekends and other time is either traveling to sports competition..(plays for an elite volleyball team and playing up with highschool in basketball..she is an 8th grader) so any down time from sports and school is her time....her schedule is pretty tight so I try to give her down time to hang with her freinds and do teenager things. She has her grown-up life to do housework etc....and as long as her grades are good and she doesnt feel stressed she will keep up this schedule when she gets into highschool.

    Tressa





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    Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss



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    Robyn Jarrell
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    I agree, I have 4 kids, now twins 20, 18 and 7. I have never paid for chores. they all learned to fold towels and wash cloths at age 5, then empty small trash cans, etc as they got older they did other things like the list below, vacuuming, dishes, cleaning their rooms to include changing sheets weekly, dusting, etc. I am one person and I feel it is my job to teach them responsibility. It has never hurt a child to do something for free. It also teaches them to appreciate the money the unexpectedly get. Occassionly my husband and I would surprise them and add a few dollars in a 'nice jar'. If htey did something nice such as when my dtr was sick without being asked my son did her chores. He had no idea he would get money. Or when we were at the grocery, my youngest son helped an elderly woman put
    her groceries in her cart while I was doing mine. Very unselfish act of kindness. Robyn



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    My kids are ages 5, 6, 8, 10, & 11
    They do chores for FREE
    Help with walking the 4 dogs & feeding them
    Cleaning bunny and hamster cages
    Vaccumming
    Dishes
    picking up any messes they make
    Trash to outside barrel and on trash day bring to curb
    and anything else they would like to help with
    My 5 yr old daughter is home so she helps with laundry,mopping the floor,sweeping, paying the bills, whatever I am doing etc.

    Christine


    Liss <liss@budget101. com> wrote:


    Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss













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  8. #8
    Stephanie Dark
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    My kids are ages 8.5 & 6 y.o. They are expected to make their beds,

    put away their clothes, and pick up after themselves (ie, dishes in

    dishwasher, toys away after use, etc.) every day. Honestly, they

    could probably use more chores, however most afternoons are chock full

    of homework so I don't want to make them do anything else after

    spending 1-2 hours doing all the homework that is required of them at

    school; I'd prefer they have 30-60 mins. to play or just relax before

    dinner and the bedtime routine.



    On weekends we expect them to help out when we are cleaning the house

    (ie, help vaccuum, help dust, "help" w/minor home repairs -- even if

    it's just coming w/one of us to the hardware store or keeping us

    company while we work -- etc.).



    I'm trying to incorporate having them help me w/the laundry, but again

    there's that homework issue; maybe over the summer I'll start

    enforcing this.



    Yes, they get an allowance that is not tied to their chores. We view

    this as an introduction to money management so they can learn to

    save,spend, budget, etc. As they get older we'll consider tying some

    extra money to extra chores; we've tried this w/our son (who

    perpetually is saving for a computer, then spends his money and has to

    start over again) & the grandparents have even offered to pay him for

    odd jobs and projects, but he's not yet taken them or us up on the

    offer. As far as how much, my 6 y.o. gets $1/week (25-cents each for

    spend, save, donate, invest) & the 8.5 y.o. gets $2.00 ($1 spend, $1

    divided among the other three); they get a 50-cent raise every birthday.



    Stephanie






  9. #9
    Randal
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    My philosophy on parenting is that our job is to turn babies into adults... ideally, responsible, ethical, self-sufficient adults. With that in mind, yes, my kiddos do chores. And, no, we do not pay them. Work is part of life and not all work is paid work. My seven year old is responsible for the trash and for setting and clearing the table at dinner. She also helps mama fold laundry and put it away and various other household chores. My 14 year old mows, vacuums, does his own laundry and helps keep the kitchen clean. They are responsible for keeping their rooms clean and neat. We have two dogs and the children share responsibility for caring for them. With an eye toward coming independence, we've started teaching our older one to cook. He does simple dishes now such as mac and cheese, but will be learning more over the next year or two.

    Some folks think we lay too much on our kids, but my wife was raise such that she never had ANY responsibilities and
    therefore didn't learn anything about the chores of daily living when she was growing up. When she moved out on her own, life was very difficult for her and it took her a long time to learn things that should have been second nature to her by then. She's determined that that won't happen to our kids, and I don't think it will!

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    Katrina Hartman
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    My DD, 18, is away at college. When she is home for breaks and such, she is treated (pretty much) like a third adult in the household. I basically do nothing for her. All we really ask is that she respect us as she would wish to be respected...sometimes it works...other times???She had a lot of responsibilities (chores) before she left for college. She was my high honor roll, national honor society, over achiever, social butterfly, cheerleader since 4th grade...She started working at 16 to help pay for her car and insurance.

    My 15 yo DS is responsible for his room and the laundrying of his bedding and sports uniforms. He is not the greatest of students. He is a pretty busy guy, as he plays a sport eash season...golf in fall, just finished basketball, and now baseball is underway with the first games this sat. Added to that is behind the wheel driver's training 2 mornings a week at 6:15 am. He also has trash detail 2 times a week (hauling the cans out to the roadside). He helps out as needed with dishes and cooking, and anything else I need like help at the grocery store, etc. He doesn't get paid for his work. We give him what he needs cash wise for dates and such.

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    Sent: Monday, March 10, 2008 11:08 AM
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    Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss





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    Herlean
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    He picks up his toys before bed and puts them away in his toybox. He is 22 months old. No allowance as yet. I am thinking in years to come of just giving him a set amount, since he is a family member and should share in our income. Plus, if he wants to do extra things around the house to earn additional income, he can do so. That way, he will see that it is possible to earn additional money by working for it. Herlean

    Liss <liss@budget101.com> wrote: Another Thread ...

    Do you make/require your children to do household chores?

    If so, What Chores & how old are the children?

    Also, is allowance part of the equation or is it because they need to
    learn that families work together and everyone needs to do their
    part?

    Just curious.

    As most of you know I have 2 children and we require them to do
    chores. I am revamping what is expected of them as we speak. I feel it
    is important that kids learn how to properly keep house as well as how
    to plan and prepare meals. Obviously I don't expect them to cok and
    clean my house, but I do want them to be self sufficient when they are
    old enough for their own apartments and not live like pigs & eat out of
    a take-out box, lol.

    ~Liss





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    My 7 year old keeps her room "neat"...in her mind. When it needs a real cleaning, we do it together. She is learning to sort laundry and put away her own finished clothes but I still do the washing/drying/folding. She gets the mail for medaily and puts her meal dishes away-that's about it. She's spoiled and she and I bothknow it- she's mild special needs, adopted and the only girl after 3 much older brothers. I may pay for it later on but right now I don't require much out of her other than school work. We don't do an allowance right now. If she's been good and working hard w/school, I may pay for a small treat now and then. Bigger spending requires her to part with birthday or special occasion cash she has stashed away. She will stand in Wal-Mart and go through the whole "I don't need this but I really want it...do I want it bad enough to spend my own money for it" thing- I get a real kick out
    of her "budgeting" sometimes!LOL Lisa G.

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    I have four children and the have doen chores since they were 2. Never paid them at all. I have taught them you are a member of this family and everyone contributes to the running of the family. Now tehy are 19, 17, 16 an d14 and all still do chores when they stay over a friends they do things there to help out. When kids come over our house to spend the night I have them help clean up after the meal. I hav etaught a manyof my kids friends to cook and eat liek a family which is what we do Hav e aBlessed Day Joy

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    I like what has been said. I think its very important to get
    your kids to do the important and mundane things with you each day.

    However, as a financial professional and now a stay at home
    dad I hope you don’t mind me sharing some insight to what I have found
    works with regards to paying your children.

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    <![endif]>Pay only for work; not service or expected duties.
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    <![endif]>Never pay them a lot of money for something. (this with
    destroy your Micro economy quicker then anything else).

    This, as you know has to be approached consistently and
    clearly or your micro economy will collapse!

    I have had the often experience when going to the store and
    my kids wanting everything they see. It didn’t work well to tell them no
    or we can not afford it. Because they didn’t have the concept of money earn
    yet.

    Therefore, my wife and I came up with very specific “jobs”
    that the kids can do to earn money. It will be different for each family but we
    learned it was important to not pay them for work that was service related.
    Doing the dishes for example is doing something for someone else. Or jobs that
    they are expected to do regardless, like picking up their toys…no way I
    am going to pay for that, that will destroy your micro economy quick! Rather
    jobs that truly were work and effort for them. Such as washing the windows, vacuuming,
    taking out the trash (that’s work for us since we live in a condo our
    trash is not close by and for a seven year old hauling it down stairs and
    however far away was worth the pay to us) , ect.

    Be very careful how much you pay them. My oldest is now 7
    and we only pay him $.25 for each job. You have to carefully determine that
    amount for each of your families.

    Since we have done this our kids really understand what it
    means when we say we can’t afford some thing. Today my oldest was helping
    me shop and looking for the best deals. It was exciting. All it took was the
    first time after “working” for awhile he requested a new Thomas toy.
    It was a great teaching moment when I leaned down and said how many quarters
    are in $10? He looked at me and said daddy that’s 40 quarters! For the
    first time he learned how truly expensive those trains were.

    Except for birthdays and Christmas he has saved up for each
    train we purchased since then.

    I encourage mirco economies but they must be done with
    caution or else the child with request money for everything he does. Even jobs
    that are assigned for money. If he requests the money refuse it! The child is
    not to demand it. We created a chart he can mark and we pay out at the end of
    the week.

    Anyway, do it but do it with care.

    Daniel






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    Daniel Burgess
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    We have our kids do everything!







    As young as I can remember we were having our son take his cloths to the

    laundry and setting the table. Be never forced it but made it a positive

    experience. He is now 7 and love to help cook and set the table and wants to

    do his laundry.











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