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  1. #1
    sbjmom2002
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    I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my family on $200 a

    month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky

    eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am

    having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any

    snacks. Any suggestions?



    Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that my kids father is

    not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to

    go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I try to tell them

    that things have to change. They smile say "Okay" and in the next

    breath are telling me about the latest gadget they can't live without.

    Any suggestions on how to really get through?



    Thanks,

    Michele








  2. #2
    me ow
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    Just remember you are always going to feel guilt about

    not being able to give your kids all the things they

    want. The most important thing is what you do with

    that guilt. You need to have an honest conversation

    with your kids about your situation. You may want to

    encourage them if they are of age to take part time

    jobs to pay for the things they want. Place some

    responsibility on your kids for their financial well

    being. That is on the greatest things a parent can

    do. When I was a kid my parents gave me stuff but

    they placed limits on the amount I could have and I

    got used to it. I started working a part time job at

    ag 15 and it gave me a sense of responsibility. If I

    spent my money on frivilous stuff and I then

    afterwards if I wanted something else my parents told

    me that I needed to wait until my next pay check.

    This era of kids are so different. They think money

    grows on trees and they don't care how much their

    parent has to go into debt to give their kids things.

    Just remember, you are not supposed to be your kids

    best friend. You are supposed to be their parent. If

    you don't want your kids growing up and not learning

    responsibility, teach them now while they are still

    young enough. Even if you feel guilt, its okay. Just

    place more responsibility on your kids. My hubby's

    daughter, age 20 is a selfish self centered little

    &^%%&^%&^! She and I get along and I like her, but I

    just noticed her habits. And her mom won't enforce

    it. I get along with the ex -wife too ( mind you) but

    still...not the way I would raise kids if I had them.

    --- sbjmom2002 <sbjmom2002@yahoo.com> wrote:



    > I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my

    > family on $200 a

    > month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my

    > kids are picky

    > eaters and don't seem to like the same foods.

    > Another problem I am

    > having is that while we have plenty of food for

    > meals there aren't any

    > snacks. Any suggestions?

    >

    > Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that

    > my kids father is

    > not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this

    > has caused me to

    > go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I

    > try to tell them

    > that things have to change. They smile say "Okay"

    > and in the next

    > breath are telling me about the latest gadget they

    > can't live without.

    > Any suggestions on how to really get through?

    >

    > Thanks,

    > Michele

    >

    >









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  3. #3
    armstrca
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    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">Become a mean mom. <grin>
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">I am a mean mom. I tell my son I am the best kind of mom he can have - because I don't let him do/get all he wants. If your kids are picky eaters, let them deal with that. Make dinner, if they don't want to eat it, they can either sit at the table until they are done or (a bit nicer approach) let them make & eat a PB& J sandwich for dinner. That is it.
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">As far as snacks are concerned... go to the budget 101 website (not the group site). Liss has a whole bunch of MYO snacks... granola bars, you can do frozen bananas dipped in chocolate.
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">So their dad isn't in their life, so what. That was his choice. He *could* be active in their life, but chose not to (unless you adopted all 3 or you had a sperm donor,or he was very abusive).
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">My son wants lots too (I am also a single parent - but just to 1). I tell him a)I can't afford it now - if it is not an outrageous thing to get or b) no - he can't have it and he needs to deal with it. Life isn't fair.
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">Another good come-back to him is 'and I want a boy who is good all the time and makes straight A's - I don't get that either' <grin>
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">You can also give them choices on what they *can* have. They have the option of that or nothing.







    From: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com [mailto:Budget101_@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of sbjmom2002
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    Subject: Budget101.com : Living on a budget<SPAN class="169524414-18062007">
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">
    <SPAN class="169524414-18062007">I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my family on $200 a month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any snacks. Any suggestions?
    Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that my kids father is not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things. Any suggestions on how to really get through?

    Thanks,
    Michele



  4. #4
    Lori
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    Quit being so nice and feeling guilty for other people's actions. Your job isn't to make your kids like you, it's to make good adults of them. Easier said than done but your kids will be better for it. Serve nutritious meals that are within a budget that allows you to get snacks. If the kids don't like it then they don't have to eat it. Hunger will overcome pickiness long before it hurts them. As for the "I needs", no they don't, they need what you're already giving them -- food, shelter, love, etc. Just tell them no you're not buying it, they better save their money for those kind of things if they really "need" them. Again, they'll be better for it. No doubt you'll go through a period where your kids think you are a horrible witch for changing the rules on them but they'll adjust and learn that life isn't fair. Probably the most
    important lesson they'll ever learn. Lori.

    sbjmom2002 <sbjmom2002@yahoo.com> wrote: I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my family on $200 a
    month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky
    eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am
    having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any
    snacks. Any suggestions?

    Another budget issue. I have always felt
    guilty that my kids father is
    not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to
    go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I try to tell them
    that things have to change. They smile say "Okay" and in the next
    breath are telling me about the latest gadget they can't live without.
    Any suggestions on how to really get through?

    Thanks,
    Michele




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  5. #5
    Herlean
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    For snacks, look up recipes and make them yourself. Cookies, brownies, granola, dried fruit, popsicles - all can be made at home. Fresh fruit is good too. I saw a recipe awhile ago for fruit leather - like fruit roll-ups... your kids may like them.

    Write down your budget and then sit down with your kids and explain plain and simple that you can not afford _______ gadget. Let them earn the money through their allowances or extra chores. You can make a list of "extra" chores, beyond what you usually have them do, and list the amount you will pay for them being done. Pay them only after the job is completed.

    Herlean

    sbjmom2002 <sbjmom2002@yahoo.com> wrote: I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my family on $200 a
    month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky

    eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am
    having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any
    snacks. Any suggestions?

    Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that my kids father is
    not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to
    go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I try to tell them
    that things have to change. They smile say "Okay" and in the next
    breath are telling me about the latest gadget they can't live without.
    Any suggestions on how to really get through?

    Thanks,
    Michele



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  6. #6
    Michelle
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    I agree. I did this and now when they want something they do ask but the

    difference is. Mom ifwe have the money and it is in the budget can I get. Lol.

    Good luck !!

    Michelle in pa

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    -----Original Message-----

    From: Lori <lorimakesquilts@yahoo.com>



    Date: Mon, 18 Jun 2007 14:29:58

    To:Budget101_@yahoogroups.com

    Subject: Re: Budget101.com : Living on a budget





    Quit being so nice and feeling guilty for other people's actions. Your job

    isn't to make your kids like you, it's to make good adults of them. Easier said

    than done but your kids will be better for it.



    Serve nutritious meals that are within a budget that allows you to get snacks.

    If the kids don't like it then they don't have to eat it. Hunger will overcome

    pickiness long before it hurts them.



    As for the "I needs", no they don't, they need what you're already giving them

    -- food, shelter, love, etc. Just tell them no you're not buying it, they

    better save their money for those kind of things if they really "need" them.

    Again, they'll be better for it.



    No doubt you'll go through a period where your kids think you are a horrible

    witch for changing the rules on them but they'll adjust and learn that life

    isn't fair. Probably the most important lesson they'll ever learn.



    Lori.









    sbjmom2002 <sbjmom2002@yahoo.com> wrote:



    I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my family on $200 a

    month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky

    eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am

    having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any

    snacks. Any suggestions?



    Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that my kids father is

    not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to

    go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I try to tell them

    that things have to change. They smile say "Okay" and in the next

    breath are telling me about the latest gadget they can't live without.

    Any suggestions on how to really get through?



    Thanks,

    Michele









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  7. #7
    Ray and Jen
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    <font size="4" color="navy" face="Tahoma">
    14.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:navy;">How old are you children??? Are
    they old enough to be involved in the cooking process? Most kids will eat
    what they help prepare. I am very blessed with two children who will eat just
    about anything, but even they have their picky days. We have a rule at our
    house, one bite of everything on your plate, regardless if you like it or not.
    I also extend this rule to their friends when they visit. No problems, so far.
    As for snacks: popcorn is a BIG hit at our house, as is apples, crackers
    w/peanut butter (that they make themselves), cheese (cut from the block) and
    crackers, pretzels, baby carrots w/dip, and anything from our garden in the
    summer. My kids are 8 and 10, and I encourage them to fix their own
    snacks (within reason) because they need to learn to be able to care for themselves.
    I grew up in a single parent household and there is nothing wrong with being
    self sufficient and helping your parent/s.
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    14.0pt;font-family:Tahoma;color:navy;">As for buying them things they
    want. My husband and I make our kids save their money for big ticket
    items. For example: My son wanted a Gameboy advance at age 5. I refused
    to pay that kind of money for something like that. So I made a deal with him,
    if he could save half I would pay for half, granted he did his chores with
    fussing. Within six months he had saved his money. Enough for a Gameboy,
    a game, and a case. That was a little over 3 years ago. He just sold it to his
    sister for 30 dollars because he bought a used Nintendo DS with his own
    money. So encourage them to work for and save for the items they want.
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    <font color="#1e66ae"><span style="color:#1E66AE;">sbjmom2002

    7.5pt;font-family:Verdana;letter-spacing:
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    <font size="2" face="Georgia">10.0pt;font-family:
    Georgia;letter-spacing:0pt;">I am a single mom of 3. I can feed my family my
    family on $200 a

    month. But it is hard. I started too late. All of my kids are picky

    eaters and don't seem to like the same foods. Another problem I am

    having is that while we have plenty of food for meals there aren't any

    snacks. Any suggestions?



    Another budget issue. I have always felt guilty that my kids father is

    not in thier life. So I try to make up for it, this has caused me to

    go into debt. Now my kids seem to expect things, I try to tell them

    that things have to change. They smile say "Okay" and in the next

    breath are telling me about the latest gadget they can't live without.

    Any suggestions on how to really get through?



    Thanks,

    Michele

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    Joseph/Lyn Clements
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    "I am still stunned - why should I have to get calls at midnight - because she can't control her children?" You shouldn't!!!! I'm shocked. What was she thinking! Not only can she not control her children, she's rude enough to call and wake you up at midnight to do her bidding???????!!! Lyn in Indiana


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