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  1. #1
    pseuzanne
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    Default Conflicted about Easter basket

    I feel silly even writing about this, but I figure if there's

    somewhere I can admit to these feelings, it would be here...



    Today I went to Target with a friend to help her choose items for

    her sons' Easter baskets. I told her I wasn't planning to get my

    daughter (18 months old) an Easter basket. She is too young to know

    she's missing anything, and besides she will get one at her Daddy's

    house. But my friend still thought I should get her a basket, that

    it would be fun. This friend has alot more money than I do...her

    family is planning a trip to the Caribbean, where they will be

    sharing a $6,000/week villa by the ocean with another family. She

    understands that I am in a very different position, but...



    I wound up spending $33, to get:

    - plush ducky "basket"

    - plastic grass

    - stickers

    - fun toothbrush

    - sunglasses

    - a book

    - bubbles

    - watering can (for the tub and the beach)



    My daughter will love all of these things, and it is SO hard to

    resist things that you know your child will enjoy. I am normally so

    frugal, part of me thinks I should keep the stuff and be OK with it.

    Otherwise, I should return the stuff and be OK with not giving it to

    her. I don't really feel great about either one. Does anyone else

    beat themselves up with feelings of guilt when buying something,

    especially for your kids? What if it's a rare treat? No bills will

    go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?



    Suzanne








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    willowdancer
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    Never feel pressured! My granddaughter who is 9 months

    and my grandson who is 2 yrs will get lil easter

    "bags" these are paperbags I have have saved and

    decorated filled with things from the dollar store.

    example: bubbles,sunglasses, stuffed animal, color

    books etc. these were just a few dollars, with things

    age appropriate and I was able to be budget friendly

    and give them a little something. they do not fully

    understand the process and have more fun decorating

    the eggs and looking for them, I also included little

    plastic eggs with pennies,dimes and nickels(i saved by

    buying the cheaper things as they do break quickly at

    this age) and then there is the SPECIAL egg with a

    dollar in it. I have set up savings accounts for my

    grandkids and money like this goes in a little piggy

    and when it gets full of to the bank it goes! hope

    this helps!

    --- pseuzanne <pseuzanne@yahoo.com> wrote:



    > I feel silly even writing about this, but I figure

    > if there's

    > somewhere I can admit to these feelings, it would be

    > here...

    >

    > Today I went to Target with a friend to help her

    > choose items for

    > her sons' Easter baskets. I told her I wasn't

    > planning to get my

    > daughter (18 months old) an Easter basket. She is

    > too young to know

    > she's missing anything, and besides she will get one

    > at her Daddy's

    > house. But my friend still thought I should get her

    > a basket, that

    > it would be fun. This friend has alot more money

    > than I do...her

    > family is planning a trip to the Caribbean, where

    > they will be

    > sharing a $6,000/week villa by the ocean with

    > another family. She

    > understands that I am in a very different position,

    > but...

    >

    > I wound up spending $33, to get:

    > - plush ducky "basket"

    > - plastic grass

    > - stickers

    > - fun toothbrush

    > - sunglasses

    > - a book

    > - bubbles

    > - watering can (for the tub and the beach)

    >

    > My daughter will love all of these things, and it is

    > SO hard to

    > resist things that you know your child will enjoy. I

    > am normally so

    > frugal, part of me thinks I should keep the stuff

    > and be OK with it.

    > Otherwise, I should return the stuff and be OK with

    > not giving it to

    > her. I don't really feel great about either one.

    > Does anyone else

    > beat themselves up with feelings of guilt when

    > buying something,

    > especially for your kids? What if it's a rare treat?

    > No bills will

    > go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?

    >

    > Suzanne

    >

    >





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    Paula
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    I don't think you're wrong in feelingthis way.At 18 months, your daughter will be happy with anything new.Why waste the money on plastic grass that will go into the garbage anyway? My thought would be to return the basket ,the stickers, the grass & the bubbles. The toothbrush & sunglasses are necessary items unless she already has some.Depending what you paid for the watering can, maybe you can just substitute a small juice pitcher. Kids love to play with household stuff.Why not justgive her an Easter book and maybe a small stuffed bunny or chick? Kids have too many store bought things and when you give so much at a young age it just escalates into a lot more stuff expected as they get older. She's not going to miss what she doesn't know about.
    This is just my opinion as a grandmother.

    Paula

    <DIV id="IncrediOriginalMessage">-------Original Message-------


    From: pseuzanne
    Date: 03/11/07 17:46:18
    To: Budget101_@yahoogroups.com
    Subject: Budget101.com : Conflicted about Easter basket




    I feel silly even writing about this, but I figure if there's
    somewhere I can admit to these feelings, it would be here...

    Today I went to Target with a friend to help her choose items for
    her sons' Easter baskets. I told her I wasn't planning to get my
    daughter (18 months old) an Easter basket. She is too young to know
    she's missing anything, and besides she will get one at her Daddy's
    house. But my friend still thought I should get her a basket, that
    it would be fun. This friend has alot more money than I do...her
    family is planning a trip to the Caribbean, where they will be
    sharing a $6,000/week villa by the ocean with another family. She
    understands that I am in a very different position, but...

    I wound up spending $33, to get:
    - plush ducky "basket"
    - plastic grass
    - stickers
    - fun toothbrush
    - sunglasses
    - a book
    - bubbles
    - watering can (for the tub and the beach)

    My daughter will love all of these things, and it is SO hard to
    resist things that you know your child will enjoy. I am normally so
    frugal, part of me thinks I should keep the stuff and be OK with it.
    Otherwise, I should return the stuff and be OK with not giving it to
    her. I don't really feel great about either one. Does anyone else
    beat themselves up with feelings of guilt when buying something,
    especially for your kids? What if it's a rare treat? No bills will
    go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?

    Suzanne









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    lisa griffeth
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    I would probably chalk it up to an impulse/pressure purchase and either A) return it and do nothing B)put the $33 in her college fund if you "need" to do something and it won't break you C) find a dollar tree (everything is $1)and spend less than $10 for a few little things... HTH Lisa G.



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    elizabe555@aol.com
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    In a message dated 3/11/2007 7:46:45 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, pseuzanne@yahoo.com writes:
    What if it's a rare treat? No bills will
    go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?


    It looks to me that the majority of things on the list are things that can be used at multiple times during the year - it's not like you bought her something she can only use once and then throw out. I personally think it's fine - especially since it isn't a situation where you skipped a necessity to have a "treat". She will enjoy all the items - it wasn't excessively expensive (as these holidays can get!) and she wlil have something to enjoyat both homes.


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    Herlean
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    My son is 10 months old. He has no idea of Easter. I got him an outfit to wear to church and for his birthday photos (same outfit). I have had people ask me if he will get a chocolate bunny????!!!! Whatever for? We will go to church and he will enjoy dinner with the family and play a lot, but no basket this year. He won't get it at all.

    If you don't think your child will comphrehend or know that it is all about even if you explain, don't fret over it. Take it back and spend the $$$$ where it will do more good for her.

    Herlean

    pseuzanne <pseuzanne@yahoo.com> wrote: I feel silly even writing about this, but I figure if there's
    somewhere I can admit to these feelings, it would be here...

    Today I went to Target with a friend to help her choose items for
    her sons'
    Easter baskets. I told her I wasn't planning to get my
    daughter (18 months old) an Easter basket. She is too young to know
    she's missing anything, and besides she will get one at her Daddy's
    house. But my friend still thought I should get her a basket, that
    it would be fun. This friend has alot more money than I do...her
    family is planning a trip to the Caribbean, where they will be
    sharing a $6,000/week villa by the ocean with another family. She
    understands that I am in a very different position, but...

    I wound up spending $33, to get:
    - plush ducky "basket"
    - plastic grass
    - stickers
    - fun toothbrush
    - sunglasses
    - a book
    - bubbles
    - watering can (for the tub and the beach)

    My daughter will love all of these things, and it is SO hard to
    resist things that you know your child will enjoy. I am normally so
    frugal, part of me thinks I should keep the stuff and be OK with it.
    Otherwise, I should
    return the stuff and be OK with not giving it to
    her. I don't really feel great about either one. Does anyone else
    beat themselves up with feelings of guilt when buying something,
    especially for your kids? What if it's a rare treat? No bills will
    go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?

    Suzanne



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  7. #7
    Monica
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    I can't say whether to return it or not - the stuff you bought would be enjoyed by her at this age, but as you said, she wouldn't know if there was nothing there.

    At 18mths, we filled plastic eggs with fruit - cut up bananas, kiwi, strawberries etc. Only two out of 12 had a sweet treat in them (peeps if I remember correctly). The eggs led to a small basket with a small stuffed bunny,sidewalk chalkand bubbles. Very frugal, but still fun for us adults - again, my oldest wouldn't have had a clue. With my younger daughter, we HAD to do something as the older one "got" the Easter Bunny by then.

    Monica in IL



  8. #8
    MJA
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    If you can afford to pay the money then do it. What is the best thing to do

    for future years is to purchase things after the holiday for 50% or more

    off, save it somewhere you'll not lose it and then you don't have to buy

    things for full price. I've done this for years with my two girls (17 & 18

    years old). Never feel that you have to keep up with the Jones', cause

    it'll get you in debt faster than you can say debt! If you friend can't

    understand that, maybe she doesn't need to be shopping with you, or you can

    teach her a thing or two about frugality (which I've done with a few friends

    over the years).



    Marie



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    Subject: Budget101.com : Conflicted about Easter basket



    I feel silly even writing about this, but I figure if there's

    somewhere I can admit to these feelings, it would be here...



    Today I went to Target with a friend to help her choose items for

    her sons' Easter baskets. I told her I wasn't planning to get my

    daughter (18 months old) an Easter basket. She is too young to know

    she's missing anything, and besides she will get one at her Daddy's

    house. But my friend still thought I should get her a basket, that

    it would be fun. This friend has alot more money than I do...her

    family is planning a trip to the Caribbean, where they will be

    sharing a $6,000/week villa by the ocean with another family. She

    understands that I am in a very different position, but...



    I wound up spending $33, to get:

    - plush ducky "basket"

    - plastic grass

    - stickers

    - fun toothbrush

    - sunglasses

    - a book

    - bubbles

    - watering can (for the tub and the beach)



    My daughter will love all of these things, and it is SO hard to

    resist things that you know your child will enjoy. I am normally so

    frugal, part of me thinks I should keep the stuff and be OK with it.

    Otherwise, I should return the stuff and be OK with not giving it to

    her. I don't really feel great about either one. Does anyone else

    beat themselves up with feelings of guilt when buying something,

    especially for your kids? What if it's a rare treat? No bills will

    go unpaid due to this expenditure. Any thoughts?



    Suzanne







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