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  1. #1
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    Default Moving- any Ideas Welcome

    I am new to the group and this will more than likely be really long,
    but it is what is on my mind.
    I have a 2y/o and 9y/o and been married 4 years.
    We have been renting since we got together and have been trying to
    buy a home.
    There is always an issue so we never get threw with the financing.
    The last few rentals have been really bad 2 moves ago both of my kids
    were so sick that the Doctor had mentioned that we were in the office
    too many times. So we were lucky and moved into a better place. The
    place we moved from we tryed really hard to have it non
    condemned so no other parent would have to go threw what we had to.
    No one could find any thing wrong (sewer was leaking and water
    standing in the crawl space).
    Then we had to move again due to the place being sold it was only on
    the market 30 days and now were in another mess. Since October my
    youngest son has been sick. It started with a rash and sneezing and
    now is in the diarrhea stage. There has not been a fever the Doctor
    has ran ever stool test that they can. We have changed the diet (no
    hot dogs and hamburger nothing greasy and no spicy food). Cut the
    milk to a little bit. Well nothing has helped.
    I have shampooed the rugs washed the walls and Evey thing trying to
    fix the problem. We did find a water leak and fixed that and have
    noticed where there is evidence where other water leakes
    have been in the past so I am thinking that it is mold. My older
    child has been a little sick but she is normally at school so she is
    not home all day like we are. When she is home all day
    then she get sick for two weeks at a time.
    We originally thought that we were going to be buying this place and
    then found out that we could not get financed for it so we will be
    needing to move again!!! My oldest has attendanted 3 different
    school and is in the 3rd grade. I have became a master at moving and
    I am so tierd of moving.
    We still have not been able to buy any thing due to not being able to
    save money due to the rent and normal bills and soon the car will be
    paid off (had to replace it but for so much money that has been spent
    at least it still runs) then maybe we could save money and
    buy a place. If I work then I have to pay for child care and that
    really costs to much I have done that before but I haven't found any
    thing that could cover the price of day care and still have
    enough money to come out a little ahead. The cheapest is colse to
    5.00 an hour and pay is only 6.50 for the average job around here.
    That is every thing from walmart to wendys.
    Some times I honestly feel like I should have joined the service for
    as many times as we have moved.
    How do people get money to pay of previous bills and have money for a
    down payment. Gee there are times we have to rely on the community
    for food and help. We even went almost a year with out car insurance
    we honestly did not have the money for it.
    We have honestly managed to eat on $50.00 a week for the 4 of us at
    home. We feel like were always broke and as long as the kids do not
    go to the Doctor we might have a little bit of money after we pay the
    I am so afraid of the gas prices rising again that really did hurt my
    husband has 1/2 hour commute to work one
    way and when the gas prices were high we spent more than 200.00 a
    month on travel for his job. Forget about moving
    closer to his job the cheapest thing I found in that town was a
    garage for 600.00 a month with no bathroom we would have
    to pay for water but still a garage.
    Any thoughts that could help I would be gratefull sorry this is so

  2. #2
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    Re: Any ideas welcome

    Do you guys qualify for any state assistance? I know in wisconsin
    for a family of 4 you would get free health insurance with no co-
    pays or discounted if you make slightly too much and $600 a month
    for food. If your income is really low they also give you rental
    assistance and childcare assistance. The subsidize most of your
    child care for you so you can come out ahead. They also have energy
    assistance during the winter months. Also, have you checked out the
    HUD? do a google search for HUD housing. They help people buy
    homes, you'd have to pick homes from their site (I believe, it has
    to qualify) and they give you special financing for it and I believe
    you can use rental assistance checks to help pay for your mortgage.
    Really try to reach out and see what your state offers as most of it
    is the same, but it varies. WIC also helps and you can make more
    money than these other programs and still qualify for it. Every
    little bit helps and don't be afraid to ask for help until you guys
    can get back on your feet and are more settled.

    I agree with the previous poster about the mold. We lived in a
    crappy place downtown 3 1/2 years ago and my son was 11 months old
    when we moved there. A few weeks after we moved my son had wheezing
    in his left long and he had it the whole time we moved there. We
    usually only wheezed when he had a cold, but it was constant then
    and he was on asthma medication and they started testing him for
    asthma and then we moved to a suburb that had newer buildings and it
    disappeared a week after we moved! I believe it was the mold. Our
    last apartment was horrible. He's had no problems since living
    there. Good luck!


  3. #3
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    Re: : Any ideas welcome

    In our community there is "rental assisstance" for low income people.They
    have these homes in the project but if all these are rented -they will go
    outside the project and rent from private people w/ the samr restrictions.
    Here you can find homes for sale that advertise "seller will pay closing "
    or partial pay etc. Some will say "no money down".
    Your son may have an illness from some months back and not from each move.
    I would think that there would be mold in the house where you described the
    water is leaking. There was a tv show on about a $1,000,000.00 house like
    this w/ leaks and mold and finally they had to abandon the house. Did anyone
    else see this ?

  4. #4
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    Re: Any ideas welcome

    You need to get the house tested for black mold. It's most likely
    the culprit, and cleaning the carpets won't fix it. If the house has
    it, you'll have to move again, or the owner will need to work on
    getting it removed ASAP. It's linked to many health problems, and
    may not be visable. It grows wickedly fast, and can be under the
    carpet in the subfloor, in the walls, in the drywall, in the pipes,

    Get the house tested, immediatly. That many health problems with no
    discernable cause is cause for alarm, especially when people who are
    in the house for a longer period are the ones who are more
    suseptible to being sick. Another thing- have you ever seen mice
    droppings anywhere in the home? Mice droppings and urine can come
    into contact with food, skin, etc, and make people ill quite easily.
    If you ever see it, report it immediatly to your land lord and ask
    for an extirminator.

    As for money problems, well, it takes a while to get sorted out.
    Have you considered getting a job when your husband is home, so you
    don't have to pay for day care? If you can do that, then the cost is
    not as high. You could work fewer hours and still come out ahead
    because you won't be paying daycare costs. An in home sitter is
    usually cheaper than daycare as well, so that is another option.

    You don't sound to me like you are in the position to be looking at
    buying a house. If it's hard enough to make ends meet now, it won't
    be easier with a home. You'll have a house payment, taxes, repairs,
    insurance, etc, and in the begining, it's usually much higher than
    the cost to rent.

    If you are a 1 income family which is considered low income, I would
    say your best bet would be to get into subsidized housing, so that
    you are more easily able to set money aside each month for when you
    are ready to make a down payment on a house.

    Subsidized housing is required to meet certain health code statures,
    meaning you very likely won't be dealing with a condemned or mold
    infested home. Subsidized housing is 30% of your income, with a base
    set depending on the cost of the apartments.

    I know apartment living isn't ideal, but if you can cut your monthly
    costs for a year, you'll have a nest egg set up that can grow much
    more quickly for buying a house. If you can tough it out for 2 years
    in an apartment paying less than you do already, and set the extra
    aside (say you pay $750 now, and get an apartment on HUD for $450 a
    month, you'd set aside $300 a month) in a seperate banking account,
    then it would grow. Based on saving $300 a month for 2 years, you
    would have $7,200 set aside, before what you gain in interest.

    On top of that, if you get a part time job making $6.50 an hour, and
    can do it during a time when your husband can watch the kids, you
    would be making an extra $130 a week, before taxes are cut out.
    Let's say you bring home $100 a week, take home on that. Set aside
    $25 per check to be put into your savings, which is $100 a month
    more saved. Now with $400 a month, you'll have $9600 set aside in 2
    years time, before interest. That's a down payment on a house of
    your own.

    It's tough, and it takes a lot of cutting back and hard work, and
    maybe some cramped living quarters, but it can be tremendously
    helpful when the reward pays out in the form of a new house. Plus,
    you're already setting aside an extra $400 a month into savings
    based on that, so you'll be in a position to just turn that set
    aside money into your house payment, and extra costs each month.

    I hope that hlpes you out a bit.

  5. #5
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    Re: : Any ideas welcome

    In a message dated 3/2/2007 5:52:42 PM Eastern Standard Time, writes:
    It started with a rash and sneezing and
    now is in the diarrhea stage.
    Have the doctor test for celiac/spru because those sure are some of the symptoms. Taking your child off of all gluten products (that means absolutely no wheat, oats, barley,malt) is how you treat celiac


  6. #6
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    Re: : Any ideas welcome

    Why not apply for medicaid or Family Health Plus for
    the family.And instead or paying for daycare,you work
    the night shift if your husband works day shift so
    someone would always be home with the kids,and you
    still would only need one vehicle.You could always
    take a few kids in to babysit,make some fliers up and
    put them around in gas stations and supermarkets.Good

  7. #7
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    Re: Any ideas welcome

    Why don't you work around your DH's schedule. When I was first married
    my DH and I both worked at fast-food restaurants. We worked opposite
    shifts so we did not have to pay daycare. Lots of fast food
    places/stores offer flexible sheduling to accomodate parents. You
    could work in the evening when your DH is home/ Even working 7-11 pm
    would make you $130/week if you worked 5 evenings. You could work 2 8
    hour shifts on the weekend and that would be $104 week.
    Another way we saved when we were first married was to live in
    apartments only when we were renting. Renting a house is much more
    expensive. We never lived in a house until we bought our own. Most
    apartments have parks or play areas close by that you can take your
    kids to for outside time.

  8. #8
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    Re: Re: : Any ideas welcome

    I have been where you are. Good idea about working at night. I shop at Aldi,
    kids need a lot of sleep. I use liquid Elderberry (stops respratory problems
    from growing), chewable vitamins, from Walmart. My kids are hardly ever sick
    now, but we lived in apartments that had mold. Hidden, from water leaks, the
    mold hurts their immune system, and they can't throw off colds etc. as easily.
    The diarrhea, try yogurt, prefferably one with no extra sugar. Must have live
    cultures. Food lion has a key lime one my son loves.
    We prayed to God. Asked for a house and almost immediatly got one. We didn't
    even have to pay closing cost, because we added it to cost of house and owner
    paid it outright for us.
    Good luck!.


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