<div style="font-family:lucida console,sans-serif;font-size:14pt;">Ya know what, I can't even afford a thank you card right now as my husband's company just cut his miles from over 3500 to less that 500. We now OWE his company 150 dollars. I can't buy groceries! I have had to borrow money from my mother, which has killed me just to make it through this month. I'm sorry I offended anyone for thinking getting upset over not receiving a card was crazy. I'm just glad my family and friends understand I'm on bare bones right now and are willing to help us out while my husband waits on his first pay check from his new job. The only reason I have internet is my mom paid for it so I would have something. We just got news both our cars need work. In my family saying Thank you was enough, and I'm sorry I won't feel ashamed of it. I
come from a long line of military on both sides, farmers on my mothers, and shrimper's on my fathers. I have had a pretty good life despite the abuse. We got through ok because we forgive and move on. I have never expected anyone to thank me for something I did from the heart, nor will I ever. That's just how we are. We know that maybe you can't afford even a card right now (and I can't) but we also know the next time I have extra groceries or even cash if you need it, you don't have to ask, it's already on the way. I don't think it's lazy if you forget to say thanks, careless yes, but I haven't yet met a person yet that's not forgotten something. I teach my kids to be polite, but I won't force them. I don't let them gripe though when others have been rude to them though. I live in a single wide trailer in AL with 3 boys, and a husband who is home for the first time in 6 years longer than a
week. I have had all I'm gonna take. I'm gone. I'll stick with my truckers wives and catholic mothers group. I appreciate what I've learned but this is a budget group. I figured there would be some people here that maybe had the same hardships I do and would understand that right now giving or receiving a thank you CARD specifically isn't the end all or be all of manners. So I'm gonna go sit on my sofa on my lazy butt and drink a shot of tequila and thank God I don't have to worry about something that trivial with my friends and family.
~Tee
i think a phone call with a genuine "thanks" is okay.</P>
a hug and thank you if in person.</P>
money is tight these days for everyone.</P>
maybe just good old fashioned " good values" is what we need now.</P>
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Date: Saturday, June 28, 2008, 12:28 AM
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Ya know what, I can't even afford a thank you card right now as my husband's company just cut his miles from over 3500 to less that 500. We now OWE his company 150 dollars. I can't buy groceries! I have had to borrow money from my mother, which has killed me just to make it through this month. I'm sorry I offended anyone for thinking getting upset over not receiving a card was crazy. I'm just glad my family and friends understand I'm on bare bones right now and are willing to help us out while my husband waits on his first pay check from his new job. The only reason I have internet is my mom paid for it so I would have something. We just got news both our cars need work. In my family saying Thank you was enough, and I'm sorry I won't feel ashamed of it. I come from a long line of military on both sides, farmers on my mothers, and shrimper's on my fathers. I have had a pretty good life despite the
abuse. We got through ok because we forgive and move on. I have never expected anyone to thank me for something I did from the heart, nor will I ever. That's just how we are. We know that maybe you can't afford even a card right now (and I can't) but we also know the next time I have extra groceries or even cash if you need it, you don't have to ask, it's already on the way. I don't think it's lazy if you forget to say thanks, careless yes, but I haven't yet met a person yet that's not forgotten something. I teach my kids to be polite, but I won't force them. I don't let them gripe though when others have been rude to them though. I live in a single wide trailer in AL with 3 boys, and a husband who is home for the first time in 6 years longer than a week. I have had all I'm gonna take. I'm gone. I'll stick with my truckers wives and catholic mothers group. I appreciate what I've learned
but this is a budget group. I figured there would be some people here that maybe had the same hardships I do and would understand that right now giving or receiving a thank you CARD specifically isn't the end all or be all of manners. So I'm gonna go sit on my sofa on my lazy butt and drink a shot of tequila and thank God I don't have to worry about something that trivial with my friends and family.
~Tee
I do teach the kids (and me) that thank you cards are a necessity, but also that there are internet e-cards (free).... handmade cards (priceless) made from stuff on hand.... and hugs.... they are all valid thank yous.... But to send someone a gift or give it at a party where you can't get around and say thank you personally for each gift means that you need to convey some personal note to the giver that their gift was appreciated and valued (and received).
It doesn't have to cost money though.
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</p><div style="font-family: lucida console,sans-serif;font-size: 14pt;">Ya know what, I can't even afford a thank you card right now as my husband's company just cut his miles from over 3500 to less that 500. We now OWE his company 150 dollars. I can't buy groceries! I have had to borrow money from my mother, which has killed me just to make it through this month. I'm sorry I offended anyone for thinking getting upset over not receiving a card was crazy. I'm just glad my family and friends understand I'm on bare bones right now and are willing to help us out while my husband waits on his first pay check from his new job. The only reason I have internet is my mom paid for it so I would have something. We just got news both our cars need work. In my family saying Thank you was enough, and I'm sorry I won't feel ashamed of it. I
come from a long line of military on both sides, farmers on my mothers, and shrimper's on my fathers. I have had a pretty good life despite the abuse. We got through ok because we forgive and move on. I have never expected anyone to thank me for something I did from the heart, nor will I ever. That's just how we are. We know that maybe you can't afford even a card right now (and I can't) but we also know the next time I have extra groceries or even cash if you need it, you don't have to ask, it's already on the way. I don't think it's lazy if you forget to say thanks, careless yes, but I haven't yet met a person yet that's not forgotten something. I teach my kids to be polite, but I won't force them. I don't let them gripe though when others have been rude to them though. I live in a single wide trailer in AL with 3 boys, and a husband who is home for the first time in 6 years longer than a
week. I have had all I'm gonna take. I'm gone. I'll stick with my truckers wives and catholic mothers group. I appreciate what I've learned but this is a budget group. I figured there would be some people here that maybe had the same hardships I do and would understand that right now giving or receiving a thank you CARD specifically isn't the end all or be all of manners. So I'm gonna go sit on my sofa on my lazy butt and drink a shot of tequila and thank God I don't have to worry about something that trivial with my friends and family.
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Ya know what, I can't even afford a thank you card right now
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<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color="#c00000" size="3"> The original poster with this question didn'tsay she could not afford to have her son write the cards. That is a whole different situation.I think it was that he had not taken the time to write them after graduation and heis now getting ready to leave. You are getting way too upset over someone expressing an opinion you don't agree with. Maybe the tequila will make you feel better!
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so well put!! imagine adding to that mix a child with special needs and the extra days off needed for various therapies and dr appts. My daughter goes to PT and OT 2x a week each and the appts are set up back to back first am appt on those days, but that is still 9am and 9:30 am which means I wouldnt be able to get to work until 10 or 11am on those days. Add to that the number of times my sons daycare called me to pick him up because he spent the day crying or just laying on the cement playground refusing to play (this was before he was diagnosed with autism, btw), just having meltdown after meltdown. I still had to pay for the weeks and days he missed but didn't get to go to work, so it was just crazy. It shouldnt have to be a choice between a child and a job, but alas florida is a "right to work" or "no fault" state for employment and unemployment which means a company can fire you without reason or cause and there is no
recourse for the employee. They will never admit firing you for taking days off to care for a sick child they just tell unemployment they used the right to work law and there is no legal recourse.
another point, I became a sahm when we had kids, my skills in the computer field are all outdated technologies by now 7 years later. I no longer have the earning potential I once had as I now have no relevant experience for most positions in my field.
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