wilbe95
Coping
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on 09-15-2009 at 08:12 PM (140 Views)
What a long trying week this is already and it is only Tuesday! Over the weekend the DH and two older boys went camping with scouts and didn't get home until late Sunday. The boys were filthy from head to toe (there had been rain in the area they camped at). Everyone was so tired. The 13 year old fell asleep at 6:30pm and did not wake up until 6:30am Monday.
At school that morning there was a major buzz. One of his (the 13 year old) classmates died over the weekend. That was the only announcement that the school made right after the bell rang. The buzz went wild. The boy died from a self inflicted gun shot. There were all sorts of wild stories about it that my DS told me that evening-none that were true, just teens speculating. The boy had been depressed and the medicine was not working for him. Parents left the boy alone for an hour and needless to say what they discovered when they returned home.
This is the second boy from my DS school to have died in the past month or so. The first was an airplane accident, now a suicide. He is having a bit of a hard time with this. He knew this second boy more than he did the first and of course those unanswered questions that remain after a suicide.
Has been a chance for me to talk very seriously with my DS about depression and how others knocking you down all of the time verbally can drive a person to that point. Of course you will always be left with the questions. About eleven years ago I lost a cousin to suicide by gun as well and this has brought all those feelings I had at that time back to the front of my brain. And yes, also those questions of why, why, why.
As a parent of a child who has to cope with this experience I am doing the only thing that I possibly can....hug him tightly, tell him I am so sorry that he has to go through this, that I will always love him and that nothing could hurt me worse then to lose my child in such a way, offer a shoulder to cry on, share a few tears as well, and tell him he is my world and remind him of the wonderful future he has and that school is only temporary and then the real world will start and it is much better.
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